5 rules of a conversation
How do we show we are listening to our speaker?
Paying attention, commenting, asking questions
When the speaker is done talking, saying something about what they said so they know I was paying attention and care.
Commenting
S1: "Thanksgiving is almost here are you doing--"
S2" "I love thanksgiving!"
S1: "are you doing anything for the--"
S2: "Im going to eat so much food"
Interrupting
What could speaker 2 do so they are not interrupting?
Wait their turn to speak
Why is commenting important?
To show the speaker you are engaged
Questions
S2: "Turkey"
S1: "Yum I love turkey"
S2: "cool"
What did speaker 2 do wrong/right?
No questions asked
What could speaker 2 do differently?
Ask questions so speaker 1 feels included in the conversation
Why are questions so important to ask our speaker?
To show we are listening, care about what the speaker is saying, and to continue the conversation.
Letting the speaker finish talking before sharing your own thoughts
Waiting your turn (not interrupting)
S2: "Yes I also like turkey, and yams, and stuffing, and cranberry sauce, uhmmm I like pumpkin pie with a ton of whip cream, uhmmm sweat potatoes, ooo and cheesy potatoes, and even just regular mashed potatoes with gravy. I also eat apple pie, and cookies, and chocolate for dessert"
Rambling on.
What could speaker 2 do differently?
Answer speaker 1 questions without going on and on. Keep the response short so speaker 1 does not lose interest in the conversation
Why is it important to stay on topic?
To show the speaker you care about the topic they are talking about
Looking at speaker when they are talking and actively paying attention to what they are saying.
Listening
S1: "wow thats a lot of foods"
S2: "I hope theres a good game of football on"
S1: "football? when?"
S2: "I want to watch the lions play on Thanksgiving"
Topic change
What could speaker 2 do differently?
Respond with a comment/questions that relates to the topic of Thanksgiving food.
Interrupting a speaker is frustrating to them. We need to let them share their thoughts before you can share your own thoughts.
Listening, commenting, and asking questions about the topic the speaker is talking about.
Staying on topic
SWAMP TALK
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tzZeOpeBlDo&list=PLMdKMaqxA079dASLzuLdoGB3yaO4WWog4&index=32
Nothing! Shrek and donkey took turns speaking and stayed on topic.
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