Core Skills 1
Putting energy back on task when it begins to wander
-Focusing
Simple techniques used on the spot to calm you down when you need time to think
Calming
Resourcing
deciding where and how to get help as well as what kind of help is needed
refuses to back down even when proven wrong, overly sensitive, and experiences everything as a put down
False Pride
Power Orientation
Decides things will be a certain way, then expects it to happen-gets upset if it doesn't
Unrealistic Expections
Making a Honest effort to understand another point of view
view switching
presenting ones self to create a positive accurate first impression
self presentation
Forecasting
thinking through what is likely to happen as a consequence of a action
turning off anything you do not want to hear
closed channel
Blames others( family, past, cops, social conditions, or victims) for causing behavior
Victim Stance
failure to consider the feeling or pain of others (physical, mental, social, or financial)
Lack of Empathy for others
Danger Spotting
Showing basic human respect for another person
humanizing
asserting
statingyour point respectively and constructivily so that it is more likely to be heard
thinks of self as better, even though there's no evidence of it
Fantasy Uniqueness
Focusing only on positive personal qualities and failing to acknowledge destructive behavior
view of self as a good person
Has fears often irrational but refuses to admit them
Fear of Fear
Coming up with lots of possibilities for a problem or a course of action
Brainstorming
a simple positive statement used to reshape negative self talk
Affirming
Prioritizing
Determining what is important in any difficult situation
tells people what he or she thinks they want to hear rather than what is true
Manipulation as a goal
Seeks recognition and esteem through recklessness or irresponsible behavior
Criminal addictive excitement
If a person can't recognize and accpet many to get what they need or want they want is a form of weakness
True
Tension Sensing
Paying attention to what we tell ourselves and how it impacts feelings, attitudes and actions
self listening
Ownership Attitude
percieves things and people as objects to possess, control or manipulate
has difficulties seperating wants from needs
Confusion of wants and needs
uses people to get what they want but never discloses anything important to anyone
refusal to be dependent
Being Assertive and aggressive is the same thing
False