Unhealthy Coping Skills
Doing this is a lose/lose - you are not able to express what you are dealing with/feeling, and it does not allow loved ones or others to meet you where you are at and best help and care for you:
Suppressing emotions
Box Breathing
Inhale through nose (4 secs)
Hold (4 secs)
Exhale through mouth (4 secs)
What do you call a fake noodle?
An impasta!
What is the ability to figure out how to accomplish our goals?
Planning
the mental processes that allow us to hold information in our minds while working with it
Working Memory
Doing this might alleviate feelings or make you feel a tiny bit better in the short term, but long term, it is not helpful and can sometimes even be dangerous
Getting aggressive or violent i.e. punching/kicking, destroying a room/objects
Grounding Exercise w 5 senses
5 things I can see
4 things I can tough
3 things I can hear
2 things I can smell
1 thing I can taste
What do sprinters eat before a race?
Nothing. They fast!
Having an accurate understanding of how long tasks will take and using time wisely and effectively to accomplish tasks.
Time management
Being able to focus on a person or task for a period of time and shifting when needed
Attention
We may feel like doing this at times when we feel angry or overwhelmed, but it often leads to us feeling more angry or sad or overwhelmed
Avoidance or Isolation
Reacting = emotionally driven, less thought out, more impulsive, more immediate
Responding = delayed/not as immediate, more thought out, less emotionally driven/calmer, emotions not as intense
Why can’t a leopard hide?
Because he’s always spotted!
ability to regulate yourself, including your thoughts, actions, and emotions
Self Control
ability to adapt to new situations and deal with change
Flexibility
Doing this can make it easier to not look yourself in the mirror and recognize your role in things, and it takes the spotlight off of you and shines it on others, as to avoid yourself being the focus of conversation.
Blaming others / not taking accountability or responsibility for our own actions (or lack thereof)
How can open communication help to cope and solve problems?
Expressing our thoughts and feelings in a polite, respectful, calm manner, can help the other person understand what we are dealing with and why. It can result in meeting in the middle or compromise, compassion for one another, and finding a solution that works for everyone. PLUS - we will likely feel lighter/better.
What do you call a cow with no legs?
Ground beef.
ability to develop and maintain a system that keeps materials and plans orderly
Organization
ability to independently start tasks when needed. It is the process that allows you to just begin something even when you don't really want to
Task Initiation
Over-indulgence
Over sleeping, stress eating, excessive spending/shopping
You first need to do ______, in order to _________.
Name it; tame it
What's a cat's favorite cereal?
Mice Krispies.
the ability to stick with a task and not give up, even when it becomes challenging
Perseverance
being aware of what you know and using that info to help you learn. AKA thinking about thinking
Metacognition