Triggers
A sibling comes up and takes the toy out of your hand. You get upset and grab it back. They get angry and tell parents. What's the trigger?
Sibling taking the toy
True/False
You can use a coping strategy when you feel you are too full of feelings and need to express them.
True
Name one coping skill you could use when you feel too full of emotion.
Anything that gets the feelings out.
Coping strategies are the tools we use to manage tough _______ and cope with ______.
emotions, stress
Test next week. Slow or fast pathway?
Slow
You're having a rough day because you got a bad grade on your test. A friend comes up and starts telling you how great they did. You get frustrated and tell them to go away. What's the trigger?
Bad grade on the test
True/False
Feeling like you want to stop feeling feelings is a bad thing and you can't use a coping strategy to help with that.
False. Feeling like you need a break from feelings is perfectly normal, and one of the reasons people use coping strategies.
Name one coping skill that you could use to stop feeling for a little while.
Anything that lets you take a break and not focus on the feelings. These are short-term solutions, as the problem will still be there when you return to it.
While it is often expected to know how to handle emotions, it is not a _____ we are born with.
skill
Loud noise in the middle of the night. Fast or slow?
Fast
You and your friend are playing basketball one-on-one. You make a difficult shot but your friend says you traveled. You start to argue, and your friend calls you a name. You call him a name back. What's the trigger?
Could be your friend saying you traveled, or it could be you starting to argue.
True/False
When you feel out of control, you can't use coping strategies, you just have to wait for the feeling to pass.
False. Feeling out of control happens sometimes, and is one of the reasons to use coping skills.
Name one coping skill you could use when you feel out of control.
Anything that lets you be fully in control. Cleaning, organizing, something you are really good at, are all possible answers.
Everyone reacts, those reactions are learned. Over time you can _____ them by choosing different strategies.
change
Someone pushes you in class. Fast or slow?
Could be either. You could react right away, or react later.
A friend tells you Jill is spreading rumors about you. You go up to Jill and confront her. She gets angry and calls you a name and leaves. What's the trigger?
You confronting Jill.
True/False
Feeling numb is a reason to use a coping strategy.
True. There are several strategies to be used if you are feeling kind of numb.
Name one coping skill you could use when you feel numb.
Anything that focuses on your 5 senses (sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell).
Coping strategies need to be _____ and _________ on a regular basis.
taught, practiced
You're mom is cooking some dinner and the pan catches fire. Fast or slow?
Fast
Johnny decides to go to a movie with his friend Paul. He says not to invite their other friend Cole. A week later, Cole finds out they went to the movie without him and gets upset. What's the trigger?
There really isn't one. No one really did anything wrong.
True/False
Needing to make your feelings visible/something you can touch is one reason people use coping strategies.
True. Sometimes people need to be able to see what they feel, or touch what they feel, in able to literally change what they feel.
Name one coping skill you could use to make your feelings visible/concrete.
Over time, choosing a new coping strategy will make your old reactions __ ____.
go away
Your dad drops you off at school, and just before you get out of the car, he tells you he'll be picking you up at noon for a dentist appointment. You hate the dentist. Fast or slow?
Slow