Social Skills
True or False: I should not use inappropriate language at school, even if I hear other people doing it because it is disrespectful and distracting in a class setting.
TRUE!
TRUE or FALSE: I need to always make eye contact with other people, to show that I am listening to them.
What is FALSE. Sometimes making eye contact is stressful or hard. I can do other things to show I am listening to others.
TRUE or FALSE: Passive communication means being confident, strong, and honest about your wants and needs.
FALSE. Passive usually means you are covering up what you really mean, so you can make the people around you happy. You are not saying your honest opinion, or you're keeping quiet about your opinion.
True or False: Some emotions are BAD and should never be felt.
What is FALSE.
(Emotions are never bad. Emotions mean that you feel a powerful reaction to something that is happening. It is a signal to you that something feels good or doesn't feel good. All emotions are valid and okay, but we are all in control of how we act with those emotions. It's okay to feel angry, it's not okay to hit.)
TRUE OR FALSE: When someone asks me to stop doing something because it is bothering/upsetting them, I should stop the first time.
What is TRUE
Before eating, after using the bathroom, or after touching anything dirty I should ____.
What is wash my hands with soap.
What is "open body language"? Give 2 examples.
It is using your body to tell others that you are open to them. Examples: turning your body to them, having your arms at your side, turning your face towards them, having your arms and hands visible. Not crossing your arms/legs. Etc
I like my friend a lot, but I am not comfortable with what they are asking me to do. It might even sound dangerous. Should I do it, or tell my friend no? How should I talk to them?
I can kindly let them know you are uncomfortable. If they still won't listen, then you should walk away. They should care about you and respect your choices.
You've been losing every game of Uno today. You're starting to get really upset about losing all the time. How can you still be a good sport, even though you lost?
You can say "good game", shake hands, keep a positive attitude, look forward to playing again, reminding yourself to focus on having fun in each game, cheer on the game and other people, etc.
True or False When someone does not quickly respond to my question, I should repeatedly ask them until they answer.
What is False. They may be thinking of an answer, and repeatedly asking would be annoying and frustrating to others.
True or False: I should regularly shower and change my dirty clothes so I don't have a strong body odor.
What is TRUE. It is important to practice good hygiene. Everyone has different levels of odors, sweat, etc. Having good hygiene can help you in social situations.
True or false. My friend is sharing a story. Their story reminds me of something that happened to me! I should share the story right away.
What is FALSE. It might be rude to interrupt their story. You can wait for a pause in their story to make a comment, or wait until they're done with their story.
Try to listen to them first. Use your judgement to decide if you should talk about yourself in that moment.
When I don't get what I want, I can yell, scream, and call people names.
What communication style is this? Why might it be unhelpful or hurtful?
Aggressive communication style. It might make the other people angry, it might hurt their feelings and I can't take it back, it might make the situation worse, or I could get into trouble.
Your friend is upset. What might you tell a friend to help them feel better?
Many possible answers!
"You look upset. Do you want to talk about it?"
"Sorry, that sounds really challenging. I hope it gets better."
"Let's go get ice cream and just hang out for a bit!"
If we're playing a board game and I win every game, what is one inappropriate way to react and what is one appropriate way to react?
1) Act like a poor sport (any example of that)
2) tell everyone good game, shake their hand/high five
TRUE or FALSE It's hot in the classroom and you just had gym class. It would be a good idea to put on _____________ so that I don't smell too sweaty.
What is False. Deodorant!
I've been thinking about my video game all day. I told my best friend about the video game, but they didn't respond. I want to repeat the story over and over again until they respond.
Should I? What can I do instead?
No, I shouldn't say it again. I can think about it as much as I want in my head.
Maybe they responded and I didn't hear. Maybe they don't want to hear the same story multiple times in one day. Maybe they are studying for a test and need to concentrate.
I can ask them if I can keep telling the story. I can see if someone else wants to hear my story. I can talk about another part of the video game. I can change the topic. I can ask about my friend.
What is it called when I am using a sarcastic or mean tone, and saying something I don't really mean?
(For example, "Oh woowwww, I really think that is suchhhh a good idea."
Passive Aggressive.
Name 2-3 things you do to help your mood feel better.
Many possible answers!
Take a break, go for a walk, deep breaths, talk to a friend, blow bubbles, imagine happy thoughts, draw, journal, move my body like jumping jacks, use a fidget toy.
TRUE OR FALSE: Social situations can be tricky. Sometimes, I can do something in one place (like yelling at the park) and not in another place (yelling at school).
TRUE. You might have to change how you act, depending on the situation. You can talk to your friends one way, but maybe you can't talk to your teacher or boss that way.
You can yell at the park, but not at school. Etc.
My breath is starting to stink. I can feel food stuck in my teeth. I should go _____.
What is brush my teeth. (every day)
Name 2-3 things I can do to show I am listening to someone talk.
Nod along occasionally. Repeat back what they are saying. Ask clarifying questions. Turn my body towards them. Look in their direction.
Your friend keeps taking your things without your permission, and it bothers you. When you talk to them, they say "I just didn't think you would mind. We are friends, right?"
What is an assertive response you could say?
Many examples!
Example: "We are friends! I just want you to respect my personal stuff and ask me before taking things."
"I do mind, and I care about being friends. Can you please ask before taking my stuff?"
OR "Sorry, I don't want to be friends with someone who keeps taking my things. Goodbye."
Explain how your emotions might affect your relationships or interactions with other people.
Many possible answers.
Your emotions affect how you treat people and talk to people.
Your emotions might affect how much energy you have to be around other people.