Managing Anger
What emotion did Myah feel when she lost the game?
Anger
What is empathy?
Understanding how someone else is feeling by putting yourself in their shoes
What is respect?
He overheard someone talking bad about him in the hallway.
"I can understand why you feel upset."
"I'm sorry you had to hear that. That must have hurt."
"That wasn't fair or kind of them to say."
"I'm here for you. Do you want to talk about it?"
Rude or respectful? Telling someone how you feel when they do something wrong to you and asking them to do something different.
Respectful
What were 3 signs in Myah's body that showed she was angry?
Heart beating fast, breathing fast, skin hot, stomach aching, muscles pumped up and ready to go, brain not in control
What are 3 ways you can tell how someone is feeling?
Their facial expression, body language, tone of voice, and the situation
Give one example of each: what respect sounds like and feels like
Sounds like: calm voices, no yelling or name-calling, listening quietly when someone else is talking, saying "Please and thank you" and "I'm sorry"
Feels like: included, valued, happy, calm, peaceful, trusted by others, safe and cared for, heard and understood
She is walking in for her first day at a new school.
"I can show you around if you'd like."
That must feel a little scary starting somewhere new."
"I'd be nervous too if I didn't know anyone yet."
"You can sit with me at lunch."
Name two ways you can respect someone's ideas/beliefs
Really listen to people when they are talking to you, don't interrupt or laugh at their ideas, be open-minded, ask questions politely to understand their point of view, and agree to disagree when someone's opinion or beliefs are different from yours.
What is the first step you should take to help yourself calm down?
Stop and name your feeling
When you notice a classmate looks sad and is sitting alone, what is one way you can show empathy?
Asking if they're okay or inviting them to play
Give 2 examples of what respect looks like
Eyes on speaker, following directions, helping others, waiting your turn to talk, keeping hands and feet to self, etc.
She got to school and realized she forgot all of her homework.
"That must feel really stressful."
"I've done that before too, it's the worst feeling."
"You worked hard on it, and it's frustrating to forget it."
"I can tell you're upset. Do you want to talk about it?"
Name two ways you can respect your own learning
Try your best even when something feels hard, ask questions when you don't understand, pay attention in class, learn from mistakes, do your homework and take your time to do it well, keep a growth mindset - believe you can get better with practice
What are 3 calming strategies you could use when you feel angry at school?
Taking deep breaths, counting slowly, using positive self-talk, walking away, talking to a friend or adult, asking for a break
Why is it important to have empathy?
When we understand how others feel, we can respond in a way that is helpful and not hurtful. It also helps you build friendships and solve problems respectfully.
Name 3 ways you can respect yourself
Positive self-talk, get a good night's sleep, brush teeth/hair, shower, eat healthy, exercise, stand up for yourself, try your best even when something feels hard, forgive yourself when you make a mistake, give yourself breaks if you're tired, upset, frustrated.
Name two ways you respect someone's learning
Help someone when they're stuck on something instead of laughing at them, wait until lunch to talk to your friend so that they can focus on their work, don't interrupt when someone is talking or asking a question, stay on task so you don't distract others, say encouraging things like "Good job!"
Why is it important to be mindful of your body signals and how you're feeling?
So you know to use a coping skill. When you feel strong feelings, you don't do our best thinking and may do something you regret. You need to calm down, so you can think clearly and make good decisions.
After calming down, what did Myah do to solve the problem with James?
She used problem-solving skills and asked him for a rematch
What are 3 steps that can help you practice empathy?
Observe: How might this person be feeling?
Think: How would I feel if I were this person?
Ask: Are you okay? Can I help you?
Name 4 ways you can show respect to your teachers
Pay attention, listen, don't talk over them, be kind, be considerate of their time, follow rules and directions, don't talk back or argue even if you disagree, come to class prepared and ready to learn, do your work and try your best, be a good example to others, keep classroom clean and organized, etc.
Name two ways you respect people's differences
Keep it to yourself if you think someone's food from home looks gross, ask questions to learn more when someone says their family celebrates a holiday you haven't heard from, don't make fun of people for being different, listen and learn from others' perspectives
Name 3 ways you have been respectful this week with specific examples.
Various answers.