Avoiding Gossip
To avoid gossip about you, you should avoid being friends with: _____________.
The Person who Gossips
If someone spreads a rumor about you, you should tell everyone it is a lie. True or False?
False.
Never try to disprove a rumor!
There is a rumor that: You have athletes foot.
1) Have you heard this about me?
2) How lame, that's dumb.
3) Can you believe anyone cares about that?
If you get into a verbal argument, you should keep your __________.
Cool (temper)
Suzy: Hey! I heard you were talking smack!
You: It sounds like you are upset about what I said to (name).
It sounds like you are mad. Can you explain?
You should never tell your ___________ to a gossiper.
Secrets
Why should you never try to disprove a rumor?
1) You look defensive and guilty. (They won't believe you).
2) They will spread more rumors about you freaking out.
There is a rumor that: you are getting expelled.
1) Have you heard this about me?
2) People need to get a life.
3) I'm right here! That's crazy!
If you get into an argument, it is important to ________________ to their side of the story.
Listen
Suzy: Hey! That's my pencil!
You: Oh, I am sorry. Here.
Oh. You are mad because this is your pencil.
My bad. I did not realize you would be mad.
Never spread __________ about other people.
Rumors
If someone tells you they heard a rumor, you should confront the person who started it. True or False?
False
Never confront a rumor spreader. It could lead to a fight.
melting ice
what is a positive feedback loop
If you get into an argument, you can show you are listening by __________ what they say.
Repeating
Suzy: I texted you last night. Why didn't you text me back!?
You: You sound upset that I didn't text you back.
Are you upset that I did not reply?
I'm sorry. I got busy and I didn't mean to make you upset or worried.
Mrs. A told Mrs. G that Mrs. Myers is getting married. Who should Mrs. Myers AVOID telling secrets to?
Mrs. A
Mrs. Myers was angry when Mrs. G told her that Mrs. A said she was getting married. She yelled at Mrs. G that it was not true! What did she do wrong?
1) She tried to disprove the rumor
2) She got upset.
There is a rumor that: you have a crush on the school nerd.
1) Have you heard this about me?
2) Whatever! That's ridiculous!
3) Can you believe anyone cares about that?
After you have listened to the other person, you should _________ your side calmly, and say you are __________.
1) explain
2) sorry
Suzy: You can eat lunch by yourself because you didn't invite me to your birthday party.
You: You sound upset about that.
I'm so sorry. I can understand why that hurt you.
Mrs. Myers knows one of Mrs. A's secrets. Should she tell Mrs. G because Mrs. A told her secret first? Why or why not?
No.
1) Never spread rumors about other people
2) Mrs. A might spread more gossip or get mad.
How should Mrs. Myers act if Mrs. G asks if she is getting married?
She should act amazed. That rumor is so stupid! Who would believe that?!
There is a rumor that: you are flunking all your classes.
1) Have you heard this about me?
2) Why does anybody care about my grades? Silly!
3) Can you believe anyone cares about that?
If you did nothing wrong, should you apologize to the other person anyway?
Yes. Saying that you are sorry does not admit to doing something wrong. You can say you are "sorry they feel that way."
Suzy: Were you flirting with my boyfriend?!
You: You sound upset about me talking to your boyfriend.
I'm sorry you're upset. I wasn't trying to flirt with him or hurt you. I just needed to know if he was going to eat lunch with us today.