First Steps
Your feelings and behaviors are always the result of.
What is Your Thinking?
You blame just about anyone or anything for your crime except yourself--even though you're the one who committed the crime. "Someone else" was stupid. "Someone else" snitched you out. "Bad luck" got you arrested.
What is Victim stance?
War of words - using anger and intensity to overpower others in a discussion.
What is arguing tactic?
Everything is viewed as either one extreme or the other; there is no middle ground.
What is Extreme Thinking (all-or-nothing thinking)?
Ms. Wilkie's maiden name
What is Ms. King?
When you have the same type of thoughts over and over.
What is thinking patterns?
We make a big fuss over someone else's mistake. We get overly involved in giving critical feedback in group to peers in order to use up all the time and not allow the group an opportunity to give use critical feedback.
What is Pointing Out the Faults of Others?
Feelings are facts.
What is Emotional Reasoning?
It is a position you take to show yourself to the world - like an image or a pose.
What is "stance?"
Ways of thinking that say it is alright for you to violate others or the property of others.
What is Criminal Thinking Patterns?
You only put forth effort for the things you desire at the moment, when it will benefit you for self gain, you do anything you can to avoid responsible effort. Is unwilling to do anything you find boring or disagreeable.
What is selective effort?
Diversion tactic where you argue over the exact language used rather than trying to clarify the exact meaning intended.
What is quibbling over words?
Everything that happens around you is always all about you.
What is personalization?
Criminal & Addictive Tactics (3)
What is avoidance strategies, diversion strategies, aggression strategies?
Ways of thinking that say continuing to use alcohol or other drugs it okay no matter what you have to do, to make that happen and no matter what the consequences are to yourself or others.
What is Addictive Thinking Patterns.
Misleading others by hiding the truth or telling half-truths or saying "I don't know" or I don' remember" when pressed for details.
What is lying by omission?
Defense mechanisms that's purpose is to make the irrational sound rational with the use of justification and excuses.
What is Rationalization?
They are the basic assumptions we make about the world, others and ourselves and they are formed in childhood as the result of our experience of the world. They are automatic and we are usually unaware of them.
What are core beliefs?
Being deliberately vague, false compliance, playing dumb, selective memory and attention, minimizing, lying by omission are examples of .
What are avoidance strategies?
Not listening to or trusting new information. You already know everything.
What is Closed Thinking?
This is the main feature of addictive thinking and the first line of defense. It is a powerful coping mechanism to delay facing the truth.
What is Denial?