Criminal and Addictive Thinking Basics
A _______ happens when a person under the influence of alcohol or other drugs continues to function and appears normal to others, but later has no memory of what happened.
What is a blackout?
The thoughts behind our thoughts
Inaccurate, slanted, or one-sided ways that people look at themselves, others, and the world.
What are thinking distortions?
Thinking distortions are about ______ we think; criminal and addictive thinking patterns are more about _____ we think.
What are How and What?
These are the three categories of Criminal and Addictive Tactics.
What are avoidance, diversion, and aggression strategies?
This is the word used to describe when our thinking is faulty or not true
What is Distorted?
Distorted thinking or distorted thoughts
Core beliefs are the basic ________ we have made and accepted as true about ourselves, other people, and the world.
What are assumptions?
This thinking distortion is marked by viewing everything as either one extreme or the other. The world is either black or white with no gray area.
What is extreme thinking?
OR
What is all-or-nothing thinking?
This really stands for Don't Even Notice I Am Lying (to myself).
What is DENIAL?
Define or explain the difference between lying by Omission vs Commission
What is misleading by hiding the truth or telling half-truths vs misleading people by telling them things that aren't true?
Rather than understanding situations in our lives as "something happened" (event) and "so then I did ____" (behavior), we know these two things happen in between: Event -> _____ -> ______ -> Behavior
What are Thoughts and Feelings?
Event -> Thoughts -> Feelings -> Behavior
Core beliefs are formed in _________ and continue to develop throughout ______.
What is childhood and life?
This thinking distortion says that everything that happens around you is always about you. We think other people's actions (or inaction) are directed at us all the time.
What is Personalization?
In the criminal thinking pattern, the "victim" stance means we are finding ourselves as the victims first without thinking about how we have victimized others. This is the addictive thinking pattern that goes with the victim stance.
What is the "Self-Pity" stance
This tactic's less common name is Trivializing. Name the tactic and define it.
What is Minimizing: we make what we did seem less significant than it was (view our offenses as less serious than others do, downplay the harm we caused)?
This is the word used to mean an exchange and is how we move around in the world.
What is to Interact
Three examples of core beliefs about the world:
What are: the world is a decent place... It's me versus them... The world should be just and fair. It's a dog-eat-dog world... The world rewards people who work hard... Rules aren't for me; I'm entitled to break the rules... If you can't do the time, don't do the crime... No place is safe... People get what they deserve in life... Happiness never lasts... It's okay to break the small rules... There's a reason to feel hopeful in this world.
Define the thinking distortion of Concrete Thinking and give an example from your addiction history.
What is focusing on the details of an event or situation, undergeneralizing, not learning the general rules behind the situations, and taking things too literally.
This is how the "Unique Person" stance can be defined.
What is we see ourselves as different or special, or we see our criminal behavior or substance abuse makes us different and therefore others do not understand us?
Give an example of the Quibbling over Words.
What is "What you said is not right-- that phrase actually means _____"
Misquoting someone in order to make what we seem more correct
Argue the language used rather than trying to clarify the meaning intended.
This is the tool used to reflect on situations that we wish we would have handled better, and is used throughout the book.
What is a Thinking Report?
Three examples of core beliefs from the view of self:
What are: I'm lovable... I deserve respect from myself and others... Since I'm special, I deserve special treatment... I'm no punk... I can make a positive difference in people's lives... I want what I want when I want it... If I were my true self, no one would like me... My feelings are always correct... I can't change what happens to me... I can change... My future is hopeful.
Provide three examples of the language used in the Actor vs Observer distortion
What are "I found myself in a situation..." "I caught a case"... "I ended up back with old friends"...
Anything that puts it as being the victim of the circumstance and removes any control or accountability out of our part in the situations we put ourselves in.
This thinking pattern includes impulsive behavior (spur of the moment thinking) and instant gratification (satisfying a desire or need immediately without planning or effort)
What is the Lack of Time Perspective?
State the difference between veiled and direct threatening words.
What is veiled threats are indirect, can be only body language or suggesting with vague statements that something bad might happen vs direct threats being statements of intent to cause harm, physically intimidate them by using force?