Thinking Patterns
I view myself as a Victim, despite How I have victimized others.
What is Victim Stance?
Everything is black or white, good or bad. There is no middle ground.
What is All or Nothing Thinking?
Technically, I didn't lie - I just didn't tell them
What is Lying by Omission (Avoidance)
feeling or showing pleasure or contentment
What is Happy?
This is, objectively, what started the chain of events.
What is the EVENT?
I am a good person, no matter what I've done, or how I act.
What is "Good person stance"?
If something happens once or twice, then it must always be true.
What is overgeneralization?
What is Discussing smokescreen issues?
reluctant to draw attention to oneself; shy.
What is Bashful?
How we act in response to an event as a result of our thoughts
What is BEHAVIOR?
Four main aspects of this thinking pattern are:
1. Fear of Vulnerability, 2. Lack of Trust, 3. Criminal Pride, 4. Zero State
What is fear of exposure?
This thinking error is popular with mind readers and fortune tellers
What is Jumping to Conclusions?
As long as I say or do the right thing, it doesn't matter if I mean it
What is Compliance/Compliance without Commitment
To be completely baffled; very puzzled.
What is Perplexed?
These are the thoughts behind our thoughts. Basic assumptions we've made and accepted as true.
What are Core Beliefs?
I lie, cheat, steal, tell half truths, and beg to get what I want. I even deceive myself about the harm to me.
What is Use of Deceit to Control?
Forgetting that we: 1)choose situations we are in (in part), 2)are a part of things that we are in and 3)have choices about how we respond to circumstances
What is Actor versus Observer
When I beat myself up, or claim unresolved shame instead of actually examining and changing my behavior.
What is self shaming to avoid responsibility? (Diversion)
to be irritated intensely; infuriated.
What is Exasperated?
Healthier thoughts that are different from our first, automatic thoughts
What are Alternative thoughts?
Weve decided the world should adjust to us rather than adjusting to the world. The world is mine to use, and violate as I please to get what I want.
What is Ownership Stance?
Reacting to How We Feel, rather than How we think
What is Emotional Reasoning?
These are the seven types of aggression tactics.
What are arguing, using threatening words or behaviors, raging, sarcasm and teasing, splitting staff, creating chaos, and attention seeking?
having an exaggerated sense of one's own importance or abilities.
What is Arrogant?
These are what pops into our mind when the event happens.
What are THOUGHTs?