The Basics
This influences feelings and behaviors
thoughts
Believing that something that happens around you is about you.
Personalization
We seek excitement first, which keeps us from responsible behavior
seek excitement first
we see ourselves as special or different than others
unique person stance
The three main types of tactics?
avoidance, diversion, aggressive
Basic Assumptions we've made and accepted as true about ourselves, other people, and the world
Core beliefs
You think you know something and make snap decision with no evidence
jumping to conclusions
We lie, cheat, steal, and beg to get what we want
use of deceit to control
We may act fearless, but inside we are consumed with fear
fear of exposure
patterns of behavior
True or False:
You can change your thoughts.
True
Believing your feelings are facts
emotional reasoning
We make excuses, point fingers at others, and claim that we were the ones who were wronged.
victim or self pity stance
We use power to manipulate, intimidate, humiliate, or dominate others
use of power to control
Leaving out information or telling only half truths is what type of lying?
Lying by omission
Inaccurate, slanted, or one-sided ways that people look at themselves, others, and the world.
distorted thoughts or thinking distortions
We focus only on certain parts of a story or situations
selective focus
we consider ourselves to be a good person, no matter what we do or how we act
good person stance
We seek the pleasure of getting high without thinking about the consequences
seek pleasure first
The purpose of all criminal and addictive thinking patterns is to avoid what?
Responsibility
These are the emotional reactions we experience, such as sadness, anger, or anxiety.
Feelings
We believe situations just happen to use and we don't take responsibility for our part.
Actor vs Observer
we do almost anything to avoid responsible effort
selective effort
We tend to live only in the present or in the near future
lack of time perspective
This is an example of which tactic?
Putting on an act to try to convince others that we're weak, helpless, or too stupid to be responsible so they'll let us off the hook.
Playing Dumb