What Does a Counselor Do
What is the school counselors name?
Mr. Erik
What is Empathy?
Empathy is when you understand what someone else is feeling, by thinking about what is happening, what they sound like, or what their face/body looks like. When we use empathy, we can see that we may need to help someone, or give them space.
What is an Aggressor?
Someone who does unkind things to another person, a bully, or someone who attacks first.
If I See someone talking and looking at me, if I think they are talking poorly about me, what thinking error am I using?
Overgeneralize, Catastrophize, Mind reading, predicting outcomes, all or nothing, magnifying
Mind reading
What is gossip?
Gossip is the spreading of information about another person that is true.
What is the role of the school counselor?
The school counselor teaches lessons, Works with students 1 on 1, provided mediations for 2 or more people (to help solve problems between others), does small groups, and helps when students are having a very difficult time navigate that time.
If Timmy has his head down, shoulders slumped, is frowning, and just lost a basketball game, how is he feeling?
Sad
What is a Target (not the store)?
A target is a person who is being attacked or who the gossip/rumors are about.
If I see that someone dropped my waterbottle, and I start yelling and throwing desks, what thinking error am I using?
Overgeneralize, Catastrophize, Mind reading, predicting outcomes, all or nothing, magnifying
Magnifying
Spreading information about another person that is not true is what?
Rummors
When the school counselor pulls a student to come meet with him, Are they in trouble?
No they are not.
If Timmy is laughing, smiling, his head is up, and someone just told a funny joke, what is he feeling.
Happy
What is a bystander?
A bystander is a person who sees or hears things happening to another person that is not okay, and does nothing about it. They might watch a fight happen and not tell an adult. They might hear gossip and not try to stop it from spreading. If they spread it too they then become an aggressor.
If Timmy doesnt play on the swings with me today, we are no longer friends. What thinking error?
Overgeneralize, Catastrophize, Mind reading, predicting outcomes, all or nothing, magnifying
All or nothing
Why do gossip and rummors have a big impact of the target and the school?
Because you can not fix it easily. Once it spreads it is difficult to change peoples mind about it.
If you have a problem and want to talk with the school counselor, what do you do?
Ask your teacher or another trusted adult to see Mr. Erik
If Timmy is moving backwards, his shoulders are raised, his eye brows are up, and his teeth are chattering, after he saw something scary. What is he feeling?
He is feeling scared.
What is an up-stander?
An up-stander is a person who works to stop aggressors from targeting others. They can do this in a lot of ways. By helping the target, telling the aggressor to stop, changing the subject surrounding gossip/ rumors, or getting help from an adult.
Mr. Autui didn't sit with me at lunch, She must hate me. What thinking error?
Overgeneralize, Catastrophize, Mind reading, predicting outcomes, all or nothing, magnifying
Overgeneralize
Ms. Rawlins told Mr. Erik that Mr. Chris was not coming to school tomorrow for a doctors appointment. Which was true.
This is gossip.
What days is the counselor at Chester valley?
Wednesday (afternoons), Thursday, and Friday
What is Timmy feeling if he is yelling, has balled up fists, a scowl on his face, and someone just took his basketball before he could get it.
Angry
True or false:
Before you speak about someone else, you should think,
Is it true?
Is it helpful?
Is it necessary?
Is it kind?
True
Timmy did not say hi to me today, I think that he is going to tell the principal that I should be fired and I am the worst person ever. What thinking error?
Overgeneralize, Catastrophize, Mind reading, predicting outcomes, all or nothing, magnifying
Catastrophize.
Ms. Egoak told Mrs. Keri that Mr. Erik cheated on his spelling test to get him in trouble (not true).
Rumors