GIVE
What does GIVE stand for?
Gentle, Interested, Validate, Easy manner
Name one way to be fair in an argument
Listening, taking turns talking, or considering both sides
DEAR MAN is mainly used to do what?
Ask for what you want or say no
What does THINK stand for?
Thoughts, How else could I see this, Information, Notice emotions, Kind interpretation
Which skill helps you ask for what you want clearly?
DEAR MAN
Match the skill:
Listening without interrupting
Interested
FAST says don’t do this too much
Apologize
True or False: “You never listen to me” is a Describe statement.
False
True or False: Feelings count as facts in THINK.
Answer: False
False
Which skill focuses on protecting the relationship?
GIVE
. Match the skill:
Saying “I get why you’d feel that way”
Validate
Fix this using FAST:
“Sorry I’m annoying, but I guess I’ll just do whatever you want.”
“I don’t feel good about that. I want to share what works for me too.”
True or False: Negotiating means giving up your values.
False
Why is Noticing emotions important before responding?
Strong emotions can distort thoughts and reactions
What are the movement for "Snap", "Crackle", "Pop"?
Que Dr. Eddy/Jackie
Your friend says, “You never hang out with me anymore,” and sounds really hurt.
Using GIVE, what could you say?
I can see why you’d feel left out. That makes sense. I still care about you, and I want to talk about how we can hang out more.
Your friends want you to skip class, but you care about your grades and staying out of trouble.
Using FAST, what could you say?
I’m not going to skip. I want to stay out of trouble and keep my grades up. You can do what you want, but that’s not for me.
Which DBT skill helps protect self-respect while using DEAR MAN?
FAST
Which THINK step is most helpful when you assume something was “on purpose”?
How else could I see this? / Kind interpretation
Which skill helps you slow down assumptions before using the others?
THINK
Your parent says you can’t go to a friend’s house, and you’re frustrated.
Question:
What’s a GIVE response?
I’m disappointed because I was really looking forward to it. Can you help me understand why the answer is no?
You ask your teacher for help and start with, “Sorry for bothering you…”
How could you rephrase this using FAST?
I have a question about the assignment and could use some help.
Which skill is being used when someone calmly repeats their request without arguing?
Mindful
Why is THINK an important step before responding to someone?
Because reacting to assumptions can make conflicts worse or lead to misunderstandings.
Which skill should usually come first when emotions are high?
THINK