Accept/
Improve
Improve
This ACCEPTS Skill focuses your mind on something or someone other than stressful situation (music, drawing, playing a game).
Activities
What is Temperature?
You're bored and think about skipping your next class, what are the pros and cons of not going and going?
Pros: Relax, have fun in your room, avoid stress.
Cons: Lose privileges, fall behind in goals, credit impact, feel guilty, anxious to catch up.
What is Radical Acceptance?
Accepting reality as is, even if it is painful, to help reduce suffering.
What IMPROVE skill is it when you tell yourself "you can handle this" or "being at Lad Lake is temporary"?
Encouragement
What are the self-soothing senses and what can you do to use them?
Taste, touch, smell, hear, see, (bonus- movement)
Eat candy, smell candle, warm shower, calm music, stretching, watch comfort show
How does thinking through pros and cons about a stressful situation help with making decisions?
Consequences vs benefits, short term and long term impacts, etc.
Why do we practice radical acceptance?
You are wanting to go for a walk but staff can't take you. What IMPROVE skill can help in the moment?
Vacation, Relaxation
Demonstrate paced breathing 3x
Inhale for 4, hold for 4, exhale for 6, starfish fingers, birthday candles
You are angry at a peer for disrespecting you. What are the potential short term and long term pros/cons of engaging in a fight?
Short Term: anger release, powerful, tough, etc.
Long Term:escalate and make things worse, legal charges, delay in goals, etc.
A friend doesn't apologize to you even though they hurt you.
"I can't make them behave or react how I want them to, I can choose how I respond."
You're having a rough day and feel like you're the only one dealing with stress. Which ACCEPTS skill challenges that thought?
Comparissons
Explain how you can use each TIPP skill in a moment of anger and how it would help to reregulate yourself.
T: Cold Shower, hold ice cubs, face in ice water
I: Jumping Jacks, sprints, pushups
P: deep breaths, box breathing, rainbow breath
P: Tensing muscles by body part and releasing
Why is writing out the pros/cons list instead of thinking sometimes more effective?
Slows down thinking and helps think more in wise mind!
Provide an example of how you can use radical acceptance in a situation and still acknowledge and validate your feelings.
"I know that I need to continue to do what I need to do to successfully discharge, but this can be challenging and stressful".
Name on example from each letter in either IMPROVE or ACCEPTS.
Imagery, Meaning, Prayer, Relaxation, One thing at a time, Vacation, and Encouragement.
Activities, Contributing, Comparing, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, Sensations.
Describe a situation in which you use self-soothe to regulate yourself in the moment.
Sight: You look around at calming posters or focus on something peaceful in the room.
Hearing: You listen to a song in your head or hum quietly.
Touch: You squeeze a stress ball or wrap your arms around a pillow.
Smell: You use scented lotion if allowed.
Taste: You take a slow sip of water or a small snack if available.
How could using pros and cons outside of Lad Lake be beneficial? Provide an example.
In the moment decision making, regulation, recognizing and weighing potential negative or positive outcomes.
What is the difference between willingness and willfulness?
Willingness: Accepting reality as is, trying to make less suffering.
Willfulness: Opposite, contributing to the pain and suffering.