JEALOUSY
True or false: Someone may become jealous when their romantic partner flirts with someone else.
True.
Explain a situation where someone may feel shame.
Examples include embarrassment, humiliation, being self-conscious, past mistakes, etc.
When someone feels guilty and wants to acknowledge their harm done to someone, they should...
Apologize, say I'm sorry.
Name a synonym for love or a word closely related.
Adore, care, liking, longing, warmth, affection, infatuation, etc.
A physical reaction to sadness that can actually release stress.
Crying.
Explain jealousy in your own words.
Responses can include feeling possessive, comparing, feeling inadequate, etc.
True or false: When feeling shame, you might think "I feel like a good person."
False.
When you realize you broke your own moral code, it may weigh on your __________.
Conscience.
How do you express love?
Words, caring actions, touch, gifts, etc.
When sadness lasts a long time and feels like a heavy cloud, it’s called this.
Depression.
This color is often associated with jealousy.
Green.
How might someone express or act on their shame?
Hiding behavior, avoiding people, distracting themselves, avoiding thought, withdrawing, covering their face, bowing their head, etc.
What emotions are layered under guilt?
fear, shame, regret, sadness, etc...
This type of love starts with yourself and sets boundaries with others.
Self-love
Who sings "Who am I? Someone that's afraid to let go, uh, You decide if you're ever gonna let me know, yeah, Suicide if you ever try to let go, uh, I'm sad, I know, yeah, I'm sad, I know, yeah"
Xxxtentacion.
Explain what the saying "the grass isn't always greener on the other side" means and how it relates to jealousy.
Responses vary.
What might you say to a friend who felt the same shame you feel?
Mistakes don't make define you, learn and move on, etc. Not just "I understand", but being vulnerable and opening up.
This is the hardest person to grant "forgiveness" to after a mistake.
Yourself.
Explain what MLK meant when he said "Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."
King illustrates the idea that love is the only force strong enough to overcome negativity and conflict
This is the process of "working through" a loss or a death.
Grieving.
How is jealousy experienced/felt? (Biological response)
Breathlessness, fast heartbeat, choking sensation, lump in throat, muscles tensing, teeth clenching, becoming suspicious of others, injured pride, etc...
Name one difference between shame and guilt.
“I messed up” vs. “I am a mess” - action/mistake vs human/traits, productive vs nonproductive.
What are some positive aftereffects of guilt?
Making resolutions to change, changes in behavior, getting help we may need, building empathy, etc.
State your case: Can love exist without respect?
Responses vary - justification needed.
This DBT "skill" involves sitting with sadness rather than "numbing" it.
Emotional regulation or mindfulness.