DEAR MAN
GIVE
FAST
Mindfulness
Scenarios
100

You start by stating the facts of a situation without opinions or judgments.


Describe
100

This skill reminds us not to attack, insult, or threaten others during a conversation.

Gentle

100

This FAST skill means being _____to yourself and others.

Fair

100

This mindfulness skill means paying attention to the present moment

Observe

100

Your friend keeps interrupting you, and you calmly say, "I haven't finished talking yet." Which DEAR MAN skill are you using?

Assert

200

This DEAR MAN skill involves sharing your feelings using "I" statements.

Express

200

This GIVE skill means listening and showing interest in what another person is saying.

Act Interested

200

You do not ______ for having needs, opinions, or boundaries.

Over Apologize

200

You put words on what you notice, such as thoughts, feelings, or sensations.

Describe

200

A teacher says no to your request. Instead of arguing, you repeat your request calmly and stay on topic.

Mindful

300

This means clearly asking for what you want or saying no.

Assert

300

You let someone know their feelings make sense, even if you disagree with them.

Validate

300

This FAST skill means doing what you believe is right.

Stick to Values

300

This mindfulness skill means fully participating in what you are doing.

Participate

300

Your sibling is upset, and you say, "I can see why you're frustrated." Which GIVE skill are you using

Validate

400

You explain the positive outcome of giving you what you want.

Reinforce

400

Smiling, using humor appropriately, and having a relaxed attitude are examples of this GIVE skill.

Easy Manner

400

This skill means being _____and not exaggerating or making excuses.

Truthful

400

This "how" skill means focusing on one thing at a time.

One Mindfully

400

You tell a friend you cannot hang out because you need to study, even though they are disappointed.

Stick to Values

500

This skill means staying focused on your goal and not getting distracted by arguments or attacks

Mindful

500

GIVE skills are most helpful when your goal is improving or maintaining this.

Relationship

500

FAST skills help you maintain this important thing.

Self Respect

500

This mindfulness skill means doing what works rather than getting stuck on being right.

Effectively

500

You notice yourself getting angry during an argument and take a moment to focus on your breathing.

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