DEARMAN
Letter in DEARMAN used when you stick to the facts of the current situation.
What is D: Describe.
Name one of the three Don’ts mentioned in the letter G
Don’t attack, threat, judge
What is your primary goal when using FAST?
Maintaining self-respect
What does GIVE stand for, and what is it about?
G = Gentle
I = act Interested
V = Validate
E = have an Easy manner
How to keep a good relationship.
You use interpersonal effectiveness for these two things.
Asking for something or saying no to something.
Component of DEARMAN where you make your intentions clearly known by ASKING for what you want or SAYING NO clearly.
What is A: ASSERT.
Name one thing you can validate
Facts of a situation, Emotions, Beliefs, Opinions, Thoughts, Suffering and struggles
Can you apologize during FAST?
Yes
When I express how I feel about something before I ask for it, I am using a skills from ...
What is DEAR MAN
This is the definition of effectiveness.
Getting what we want while keeping our relationships and our self - respect.
Component of DEARMAN where you let others know the positive benefits, or clarify the negative consequences of not getting what you want or need.
What is R: Reinforce.
Component of GIVE where you might smile and use humor to lighten the mood.
E - easy manner
FAST involves sticking to your values. Which one of the following is a value?
When you tell someone that you understand their feelings, wants, difficulties and opinions about the situation, you are using this GIVE skill
What is Validate
What does FAST stand for?
F- Fair
A- Apologies
S- Stick to your values
T- Truthful
Which is more descriptive?
“I want to be discharged because I have continuously attended groups, have not gotten into any fights, and have taken my medication consistently.”
OR
“I need to be discharged because I’ve been really good.”
“I want to be discharged because I have continuously attended groups, have not gotten into any fights, and have taken my medication consistently.”
True or False – validation is Fixing, offering solutions, or giving advice.
False
Which one of the following is an example of not being Truthful?
all of the above
What are the goals of interpersonal effectiveness?
Objective, Relationship, and Self-Respect Effectiveness
What are the three skills of Interpersonal Effectiveness?
DEAR MAN, GIVE FAST
What is your primary goal for using DEAR MAN?
Getting what you want
Name three ways you can Act Interested
eye contact, active/reflective listening, nodding,
F stands for Fair.
When you are being Fair, who are you being fair to?
Yourself and Others
What does DEAR MAN stand for?
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, stay Mindful, Appear Confident, Negotiate
Describe how you might appear confident.
make good eye contact
speak clearly
do not whisper