Interference with IE
Interference in interpersonal effectiveness means what
What is: Something that is getting in the way of being effective in a relationship or asking for what you want.
DEAR MAN is used to do this
What is: Objectives-Get what you want or need
GIVE is used to do what
What is: Maintain or Build a relationship while getting what you want
FAST skills are used to
What is: Maintain Self-Respect
What does DBT stand for?
What is: Dialectical Behavior Therapy
What are the three possible goals of Interpersonal Effectiveness skills?
What is: Objectives-(get what you want or need), maintain Relationship, maintain Self-Respect
The acronym DEAR stands for
What is: Describe the situation, Express emotions, Assert what you want, reinforce the other person
The G in GIVE stands for
What is: be Gentle
F and A in FAST stand for
What is: Be Fair and No Apologies
What is the foundation skill of DBT?
What is: Mindfulness/ Wise Mind
Name at least 2 things that may interfere with your ability to be successful when using interpersonal effectiveness skills
What is: Don't have skills, You don't know what you want in the interaction, your emotions are getting in the way, You forget long-term goals for short-term goals, Other people are getting in your way, your thoughts and beliefs are getting in your way
In DEAR MAN, A and N in Man stand for
What is: Appear Confident and Negotiate
The I in GIVE stands for
What is: act Interested
The S and T in FAST stand for
What is: Stick to your values and be truthful
What are the four modules of DBT?
What is:Mindfulness, Distress Tolerance, Emotion Regulation, Interpersonal Effectiveness
Clarifying Goals in interpersonal situations means what?
What is: Figuring out what you want and what you want to achieve first.
In DEAR MAN, what does the M stand for, and what two things are attached to it
What is: Stay Mindful- Stay on topic and avoid distractions and ignore attacks If necessary be a Broken Record and Ignore Attacks techniques
The V and E in GIVE stand for
What is: Validation and use an Easy Manner
Shelly is interested in obtaining a raise from her boss, but her boss asks for favors in return. Shelly needs to use FAST to manage the situation. Give an example of what Shelly may say to her boss
What is: I understand what you are asking for, but I cannot violate my values just to get a raise. I'm asking you to consider my work ethic and years of service as reason enough.
Give me an example of a skills from Emotion Regulation
What is:Opposite action, describing emotions, problem solving etc.
Name at least one negative thought about asking for what you need or saying "No", and a positive, more realistic thought to turn it around.
What is: Examples
“I won’t do it right,” “I’ll probably fall apart,” “I’m so stupid.”
better thoughts
“ I won’t know unless I try” “I can do this. ”My needs and wants matter”
To use Use DEAR MAN effectively you must......
What is:Be clear about your wants and needs, saying no, or setting boundaries. Do so in a matter-of-fact way without name-calling, labeling, judging, or getting into extremes
What is Validation?
What is :Communicating to another person or yourself, that your feelings and thoughts makes sense and can be understood by showing that you understand the other person’s feelings and thoughts about the situation. See the world from the other person’s point of view .
Give an example of a time when you had to use FAST skills
What is: Example
What are the three states of mind ?
What is: Emotion mind ,reasonable mind and wise mind.