DEARMAN
Letter in DEARMAN used when you stick to the facts of the current situation.
What is D: Describe.
Name one of the three Don’ts mentioned in the letter G
Don’t attack, threat, judge
What is your primary goal when using FAST?
Maintaining self-respect
Use DEAR MAN to respond to the following scenario:
Your roommate leaves dirty clothes on your side of the room resulting in a loss of hygiene points
Your boss needs you to work but you already have important plans.
What is you Priority? and What skill would you use?
Relationship
DEARMAN
Component of DEARMAN where you make your intentions clearly known by ASKING for what you want or SAYING NO clearly.
What is A: ASSERT.
Name one thing you can validate
Facts of a situation, Emotions, Beliefs, Opinions, Thoughts, Suffering and struggles
Can you apologize during FAST?
Yes
Use FAST skills to respond to the following scenario: Your friend wants you to steel some money from your sister.
Explain how to reinforce a behavior.
Add positive consequences or remove aversive consequences
Component of DEARMAN where you let others know the positive benefits, or clarify the negative consequences of not getting what you want or need.
What is R: Reinforce.
Component of GIVE where you might smile and use humor to lighten the mood.
E - easy manner
FAST involves sticking to your values. Which one of the following is a value?
Use FAST Skills to respond to the following..
At a holiday party someone makes a racist comment. You are offended but you do not want to start an argument.
“Broken Record” is when you keep asking, saying no, or expressing your opinion over and over and over. Keep your voice calm and even while doing this.
Goes with which letter?
DEAR MAN - Assert
Which is more descriptive?
“I want to be discharged because I have continuously attended groups, have not gotten into any fights, and have taken my medication consistently.”
OR
“I need to be discharged because I’ve been really good.”
“I want to be discharged because I have continuously attended groups, have not gotten into any fights, and have taken my medication consistently.”
True or False – validation is Fixing, offering solutions, or giving advice.
False
Which one of the following is an example of not being Truthful?
all of the above
Using GIVE how would you response to this situation: Your teenage son has a new girlfriend that seems to be getting him into trouble.
N in DEARMAN stands for negotiate. When we cannot think of any solutions we can turn the problem over to the other person. Ask for alternative solutions: “What do you think we should do?” “I’m not able to say yes, and you seem to really want me to. What can we do here?” “How can we solve this problem?”
This is called what?
Turning the Tables
What is your primary goal for using DEAR MAN?
Getting what you want
Name three ways you can Act Interested
eye contact, active/reflective listening, nodding,
F stands for Fair.
When you are being Fair, who are you being fair to?
Yourself and Others
Which of the following is an example of validation: A peer is having a lot of problems with symptoms lately. He is getting into trouble with staff, breaking rules. He asks you to lie for him so that he can stay out of further trouble.
1. You say, “You’re really worried about being in trouble, and I can understand that, but I can’t lie, and get into trouble too. Let’s find another solution.”
2. You immediately go tell staff on him.
3. You try to avoid him. When he approaches you, you say, “I can’t talk right now, I have to do my laundry.”
4. You say, “I understand that you don’t want to get in trouble. I will cover for you.”
1. You say, “You’re really worried about being in trouble, and I can understand that, but I can’t lie, and get into trouble too. Let’s find another solution.”
Describe how you might appear confident.
make good eye contact
speak clearly
do not whisper