Interpersonal Effectiveness
What does interpersonal mean?
Relating to relationships or communication between people.
The D in DEAR MAN stands for...
Describe.
The V in GIVE stands for...
Validate. See the world from the other person's point of view and show that you understand their thoughts and feelings about it.
The A in FAST stands for...
(no) Apologies. Of course apologize when you've wronged someone, but do not over-apologize when advocating for yourself.
What is a boundary?
The limits and rules that are set within relationships with others.
When is a good situation to use DEAR MAN?
When expressing a request or personal need to another person.
True or False: The I in GIVE stands for Initiative.
False. The I stands for Interest. Show interest in the other person and what they're saying.
When is a good situation to use FAST?
What is the main goal of interpersonal effectiveness in DBT?
To help individuals build and maintain positive relationships while balancing their own needs and respecting the needs of others.
The M in DEAR MAN stands for...
Mindful.
The G in GIVE stands for...
(be) Gentle.
The T in FAST stands for...
Truthful. Be honest and do not tell lies.
Why are boundaries important?
Boundaries help determine what is and is not okay in a relationship. We put them in place to protect the well-being of ourselves and others.
True or False: The "N" in DEAR MAN stands for negotiate.
True. Be willing to give to get. Offer and ask for other solutions to the problem. Maybe even reduce your request. Compromise.
When is good situation to use GIVE?
When in a verbal conflict with someone else.
True or False: The F in FAST stands for (Stick to the) Facts.
False. The F stands for (be) Fair. "Sticking to" or checking the facts is another DBT skill.
What's one barrier that can prevent you from being interpersonally effective?
Examples: not setting boundaries, not validating the other person, not being in your wise mind etc.
The DEARMAN skill can be used to make request. What other interpersonal situations can the DEARMAN skill be useful in?
Setting a boundary or saying no to a request.
Fill in the blank: The GIVE skill is used to maintain _ relationships.
Healthy/appropriate.
Fill in the blank: The FAST skill is used to maintain _-respect.
Self