Dialectics/Validation
True or False: Validation does not necessarily mean you agree with the person.
This is the F in FAST.
What is (Be) Fair?
This is the first step in DEAR MAN.
True or False: If I use my interpersonal skills, I will 100% get what I want.
What is False?
It cannot be seen, cannot be felt, cannot be heard, cannot be smelt. It lies behind stars and under hills and empty holes it fills. It comes first and follows after, ends life, and kills laughter.
Darkness
Tell me a small change you are going to make this week to embrace change!
What is: *various*
What the G in GIVE stands for.
This is the goal of using the DEAR MAN skill.
What is to achieve our objective (ask for something or say no)?
Name one of the skills for finding and getting people to like you.
What are proximity, similarity, conversation skills, and express liking?
What is seen in the middle of March and April that can’t be seen at the beginning or end of either month?
The letter "R"
Give a reason why validation is important in relationships.
What is: improves relationships by showing we are listening and understand, improves interpersonal effectiveness, makes problem solving and support possible, and invalidation hurts?
What the A in FAST stands for.
What is (No) Apologies?
The "M" in MAN stands for this.
What is (Be) Mindful?
This is what I should do if I score a 0 on The Dime Game when I want to ask something.
What is DON'T ASK, DON'T HINT?
I’m everywhere and a part of everyone. I am at the end of space and time and existence itself. What am I?
The letter E
When we validate someone we are providing support, not ________.
What is solutions, advice, or problem solving?
What is (Be) Truthful?
This is the A in MAN and give an example.
What is Appear Confident?
Ex: make eye contact, confident voice tone and physical manner, no stammering, whispering, looking at the floor, or saying "I'm not sure" etc.
This is the purpose of The Dime Game.
What is to figure out how strongly to ask for something or say no?
I belong in December, but not in any other month. I am not a holiday. What am I?
The letter "d"
Give an example of a dialectic you learned this week.
Ex. balancing independence and dependence
What is: *various*
What the V in GIVE stands for and give an example of a V statement.
What is Validation?
Ex. "I know this is hard for you..."
Name all the DEAR MAN skills for double points!!
What is Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindfully, Appear Confident, Negotiate?
If you've gotten what you want AND kept your self respect, but you've really upset the person you were asking something of, what objective have you lost sight of?
What is relationship effectiveness?
What is 3/7 chicken, 2/3 cat, and 1/2 goat?
Chicago