DEAR
What is the skills used for getting what you want?
DEARMAN
Name a behavior you don't want to do when trying to Appear Confident.
Look down, slouch, be on your phone, trail off on your words etc.
Name one of the things that emotions do for you (reasons we have emotions).
They motivate us, communicate to others, or communicate to ourselves?
Using the Describe skill from Mindfulness, describe someone on your team.
Various Responses - Stick to the facts!
Which letter in DEARMAN is used when you stick to the facts
D: Describe
Which skill from DEARMAN do you use to reach an agreement that both people agree one?
N: Negotiate
What is the skill that includes building more pleasant experiences into your life now like riding your bike, playing a sport, or painting?
Accumulating Positives
What is the skill where you weigh the positive and negative consequences for a decision before you make it?
Pros/Cons
Situation: Sarah wants her friend, Bill, to stop using his phone when they are hanging out together because it's annoying.
Tell us an example of an Express (E) from DEARMAN that Sarah can tell
"I feel annoyed when you use your phone while we're hanging out."
What does "Broken Record" from staying Mindful mean?
Repeating your assert over and over again
What are three things you can do to help get better sleep?
Consistent schedule, no screen time in bed, no caffeine, don't take long naps, don't eat or drink right before bed
What are the three HOW skills?
Nonjudgementally, One-Mindfully, Effectively
Situation: Gary is having a hard time keeping up with the teacher during math class. He feels lost and does not understand what he is learning.
Name an ASSERT Gary can use to get help from his teacher.
"Can you help me with my homework after class?"
"Can you please explain how to do this math problem?"
Situation: Paul asked his brother if he could borrow his basketball all day. Paul's brother says no because he has a game at 7 pm.
Name a way that Paul can Negotiate with his brother so they both get what they want.
Paul can ask to use the basketball until his brother needs it.
Give an example of how you can build mastery at school.
Anything to do with challenging yourself while learning or socializing (ex. doing harder math problems, reading a more challenging book, participating in class discussions)
How can Jim practice the I skill from TIP at home?
Jumping Jacks, High Knees, Running in place, Run the stairs, etc
Situation: Jim wants to ask his dad for money so he can go to the movies.
From the R in DEARMAN, name one Reinforcer Jim can offer his dad.
Various answers: something tangible (i.e. a hug), returning a favor (i.e. chores around the house), "I'd appreciate it", "we can go together and spend time together"
Situation: Mary's friends want her to skip school on Friday but Mary likes school and doesn't want to miss her math test or get in trouble. Her friends call her lame, tell her she's not fun, and threaten to not be friends with her if she doesn't skip school.
What skill can Mary use to assert what she wants while her friends threaten her?
Act out how Mary can use this skill.
(be) Gentle
(act) Interested
Validate
(use an) Easy Manner
Tell us the difference between the Activities skill in ACCEPTS from the Distress Tolerance Unit and Activities in Accumulating Positives from the Emotion Regulation Unit
Activities from ACCEPTS is used as a way to distract from intense emotion urges during a crisis situation so you don't act on the urges.
Activities from Accumulating Positives is used so you can experience more positive emotions and make your life more pleasant to live in
Name a dialectic
Various Responses