DEARMAN
Letter in DEARMAN used when you stick to the facts of the current situation.
What is D: Describe.
Name one of the three Don’ts mentioned in the letter G
Don’t attack, threat, judge
What is your primary goal when using FAST?
Maintaining self-respect
Looking at the other person's perspective is which step/letter
T
Think-about it from the other person's perspective
Your boss needs you to work at a time you are not scheduled to be there, you already have important plans with your family.
What is you Priority? and What skill would you use?
Relationship
DEARMAN
Component of DEARMAN where you make your intentions clearly known by ASKING for what you want or SAYING NO clearly.
What is A: ASSERT.
Name one thing you can validate
Facts of a situation, Emotions, Beliefs, Opinions, Thoughts, Suffering and struggles
Can you apologize during FAST?
Yes
Asking yourself, what might he or she be feeling is an example of what step/letter
H
Have Empathy
Explain how to reinforce a behavior.
Add positive consequences or remove aversive consequences
Component of DEARMAN where you let others know the positive benefits, or clarify the negative consequences of not getting what you want or need.
What is R: Reinforce.
Component of GIVE where you might smile and use humor to lighten the mood.
E - easy manner
FAST involves sticking to your values. Which one of the following is a value?
Coming up with alternative explanations for other behaviors including benign reasons is which step/letter
Interpretations
“Broken Record” is when you keep asking, saying no, or expressing your opinion over and over and over. Keep your voice calm and even while doing this.
Goes with which letter?
DEAR MAN - Assert
Which is more descriptive?
“I want to be discharged because I have continuously attended groups, have not gotten into any fights, and have taken my medication consistently.”
OR
“I need to be discharged because I’ve been really good.”
“I want to be discharged because I have continuously attended groups, have not gotten into any fights, and have taken my medication consistently.”
True or False – validation is Fixing, offering solutions, or giving advice.
False
Which one of the following is an example of not being Truthful?
all of the above
When we make interpretations or assumptions about others that fuels our_______mind
Emotion
"Why bother asking? It won't make a difference anyway"
Is an example of what type of thought?
How do we address these type of thoughts?
Worry thoughts
Wise Mind Statments
What is your primary goal for using DEAR MAN?
Getting what you want
Name three ways you can Act Interested
eye contact, active/reflective listening, nodding,
F stands for Fair.
When you are being Fair, who are you being fair to?
Yourself and Others
When should you use this skill
When you want to make peace, reduce conflict, and reduce anger
Describe how you might appear confident.
make good eye contact
speak clearly
confident tone of voice
do not whisper, or mumble
Do not give up or say "whatever"