Flipping the Script
Your friend calls you crying stating they were denied a car loan for a new car. They still have their old car, but were hoping to upgrade.
Provide an example of an Invalidation response to the above mentioned situation.
Invalidating: "Why are you so upset? Its not that big of deal. its not like your without a vehicle."
DEAR MAN is used when the main priority of the interaction is...
Obtaining an Objective
GIVE is used to do what (what is the priority)
Maintain or Build a relationship while getting what you want
FAST skills are used for (what is the priority/main focus)
Maintaining Self-Respect
What does DBT stand for
Dialectical Behavior Therapy
Situation: You had planned to meet your sister at 6:00p to get dinner together but your sister didn't show up until after 6:30p--with no calls or texts.
Provide an example of the D of the DEAR MAN
D (describe): We had planned to meet at 6:00 but you didn't get here until after 6:30p.
The acronym DEAR stands for
Describe the situation, Express emotions, Assert what you want, Reinforce the other person
The G and the I in GIVE stands for
be Gentle and act Interested
F and A in FAST stand for
Be Fair and No Apologies
Describe dialectics and provide an example
Things that seem to be in conflict and yet are both true and valid
Ex: I can appreciate everything I have AND feel depressed
Situation: You had planned to meet your sister at 6:00p to get dinner together but your sister didn't show up until after 6:30p--with no calls or texts.
Provide an example of the E of the DEAR MAN.
E (express): I called and texted and you didn't respond. I was left worrying and started to feel like I had been forgotten.
The R in DEAR MAN, stands for Reinforce.
True or False: The reinforcement is reinforcing how getting what YOU want will benefit THEM.
True
(i.e. I would be so relieved, and less of a nag, if you let me know ahead of time if you were gonna be late)
Your friend calls you crying stating they were denied a car loan for a new car. They still have their old car, but were hoping to upgrade.
Provide an example of a Validating response to the above mentioned situation.
Validating: "That really stinks. I know you worked hard to get your credit score up. I'd be disappointed too."
The S and T in FAST stand for
Stick to your values and be Truthful
What are the four modules of DBT
Mindfulness, Distress Tolerance, Emotion Regulation, Interpersonal Effectiveness
Situation: You had planned to meet your sister at 6:00p to get dinner together but your sister didn't show up until after 6:30p--with no calls or texts.
Provide an example of the A of the DEAR MAN
A (assert): I would appreciate a call or text or some type of heads up if you are going to be late.
In DEAR MAN, the M stand for this, and we use the following 2 ways/techniques to do M
Stay Mindful- Broken Record technique and Ignore Attacks
The V and E in GIVE stand for
Validation and use an Easy Manner
True or False: To clarify the goal of a situation where self respect is the top priority, we would use the FAST skill and can ask ourselves, "How do I want to feel about myself after the interaction is over (regardless of whether or not I get the results I want)?
True
What are the three possible priorities/goals of any interpersonal interaction
Objectives, Relationship, Self-Respect
Situation: You had planned to meet your sister at 6:00p to get dinner together but your sister didn't show up until after 6:30p--with no calls or texts.
Provide an example of the R of the DEAR MAN
R (reinforce): I would feel safer knowing you're alright, be way less hAngry, and make for better company if you do that.
In DEAR MAN, MAN stands for
stay Mindful; Appear confident; Negotiate
The I in GIVE stands for "act interested". Describe the difference, with an example, of acting interested and being interested.
expressing intrigue about Minecraft
Give an example of a time when you had to use FAST skills
A tool used to help decide how strongly to say no or ask for something
The dime game