Interference with IE
Interference in interpersonal effectiveness means what
Something that is getting in the way of being effective in a relationship
DEAR MAN is used to do this
Objectives-Get what you want or need
GIVE is used to do what
Maintain or Build a relationship while getting what you want
FAST skills are used to
Maintain Self-Respect
What does DBT stand for?
Dialectical Behavior Therapy
What are the three possible goals of Interpersonal Effectiveness skills?
Objectives-(get what you want or need), maintain Relationship, maintain Self-Respect
The acronym DEAR stands for
Describe the situation, Express emotions, Assert what you want, reinforce the other person
be Gentle
F and A in FAST stand for
Be Fair and No Apologies
What is the foundation skill of DBT?
Mindfulness/ Wise Mind
Name at least 2 things that may interfere with your ability to be successful when using interpersonal effectiveness skills
Don't have skills, You don't know what you want in the interaction, your emotions are getting in the way, You forget long-term goals for short-term goals, Other people are getting in your way, your thoughts and beliefs are getting in your way
In DEAR MAN, A and N in Man stand for
Appear Confident and Negotiate
The I in GIVE stands for
act Interested
The S and T in FAST stand for
Stick to your values and be truthful
What are the four modules of DBT?
Mindfulness, Distress Tolerance, Emotion Regulation, Interpersonal Effectiveness
Clarifying Goals in interpersonal situations means what?
Figuring out what you want and what you want to achieve first.
In DEAR MAN, what does the M stand for, and what two things are attached to it
Stay Mindful- Broken Record technique and Ignore Attacks
The V and E in GIVE stand for
Validation and use an Easy Manner
Shelly is interested in obtaining a raise from her boss, but her boss asks for sexual favors in return. Shelly needs to use FAST to manage the situation. Give an example of what Shelly may say to her boss
I understand what you are asking for, but I cannot violate my values just to get a raise. I'm asking you to consider my work ethic and years of service as reason enough.
Give me an example of a skills from Emotion Regulation
Opposite action, describing emotions, problem solving etc.
Name at least one negative thought about asking for what you need or saying "No", and a positive, more realistic thought to turn it around.
Examples
Provide an example of a time when you used DEAR MAN successfully
Example
What is Validation?
Communicating to another person or yourself, that your feelings and thoughts makes sense and can be understood.
Give an example of a time when you had to use FAST skills
Example
What are the three functions of emotions?
(hint: emotion regulation module)
Communicate to ourselves, communicate to others, and motivate behavior to overcome obstacles