DEARMAN
Letter in DEARMAN used when you stick to the facts of the current situation.
What is D: Describe.
Name one of the three Don’ts mentioned in the letter G
Don’t attack, threat, judge
What is your primary goal when using FAST?
Maintaining self-respect
The three priorities you are balancing in interpersonal effectiveness
What are : Objective, Relationship, Self-Respect
Component of DEARMAN where you make your intentions clearly known by ASKING for what you want or SAYING NO clearly.
What is A: ASSERT.
What you can validate when using the GIVE skill
What is : Facts of a situation, Emotions, Beliefs, Opinions, Thoughts, Suffering and struggles
The letter "A" stands in FAST.
Apologies (No)
A DBT skill you could use if your emotions are getting in the way of using DEAR MAN GIVE FAST?
-distress tolerance skills (TIP, STOP, ACCEPTS, self-soothe, improve the moment)
-opposite to emotion
-radical acceptance
Component of DEARMAN where you let others know the positive benefits, or clarify the negative consequences of not getting what you want or need.
What is R: Reinforce.
Component of GIVE where you might smile and use humor to lighten the mood.
What is : E - easy manner
Being truthful involves not doing one of these things
A reason why your interpersonal effectiveness is not working?
-don't have the skills, don't know what you want, short term goals getting in the way of long term goals, emotions getting in the way, worries/thoughts or assumptions getting in the way, the environment is more powerful than my skills
The first level of validation
What is "pay attention"
S stands for
What is Sticking to your Values
When we cannot think of any solutions we can turn the problem over to the other person. Ask for alternative solutions: “What do you think we should do?” “I’m not able to say yes, and you seem to really want me to. What can we do here?” “How can we solve this problem?
This is called...
What is Turning the Tables
Stay mindful involves employing two useful strategies, one of which is...
What is the "Broken Record technique" and what is ignoring attacks and diversions.
Name three ways you can Act Interested
eye contact, active/reflective listening, nodding,
What is being clear on what is a moral or valued way of thinking, sticking to your guns, not selling out of your values for reasons that aren't very important.
how you might appear confident.
What is:
make good eye contact
speak clearly
do not whisper