DEAR MAN
Letter in DEARMAN used when you stick to the facts of the current situation.
What is D: Describe.
What is the reason we practice GIVE?
Relationship Effectiveness
True or False: Proximity, or familiarity often leads to liking and sometimes love?
True
What is one goal of Interpersonal Effectiveness?
Handout 1
Be skillful in getting what you want/need from others
Build Relationships and end destructive ones
Walk the Middle path
Component of DEARMAN where you make your intentions clearly known by ASKING for what you want or SAYING NO clearly.
What is A: ASSERT
What is the reason we practice FAST
Self-respect Effectiveness
Name one thing that is helpful to do when trying to build a relationship
Examples: look for people who are similar to you, work on conversation skills and/or express your liking selectively.
Other answers up to the judges to decide.
What is one level of validation?
Pay attention
Reflect back
"Read minds"Acknowledge the valid
Show equality
Name one thing you can do to practice mindfulness of others (which helps build the relationship).
See handout 12 for the components of Observe, Describe and Participate.
True or False: I am most effective at practicing mindfulness of others when I'm doing one task only.
TRUE
Use a confident voice, make good eye contact, no stammering, whispering, staring at the floor, or retreating.
What is A: Appear Confident
The most important component of this four letter acronym is to validate.
GIVE
What are you doing when you don't necessarily agree with the other person, but acknowledge how their response makes some sense.
Validation IE Handout 17
Perform an example of how one might ask for coaching?
Patient performs acceptable demonstration of how to ask for coaching.
The most important component of the four letter acronym is to maintain self-respect.
What is FAST
Name at least 3 of the 6 factors that get in the way of interpersonal effectiveness
Handout 2
You don't have the skill you need
You don't know what you want
Your emotions are getting in the way
You forget your goals
Other people are getting in your way
Your thoughts and beliefs are getting in your way