DEAR MAN
Posture, tone and eye contact are important in this DEAR MAN skill.
Appear
Watching your mannerisms or the tone between the conversation is important
E in GIVE
What is the acronym to remember on how to give and receive emotional support?
TAPS
Own the ways in which you contributed to the issue and also making sure to not over apologize
A in FAST
What are the four horsemen and what do they do?
Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness and Stonewalling
They are relationship destroyers
Using messages that begin with I to discuss how you are affected by the other person is important in this DEAR MAN skill.
Express
Using phrases such as, "It makes sense to me that..."
"Its sounds like what you are saying is..."
V in GIVE
What is a repair in a relationship?
Address the person by name
Take responsibility
Ask for forgiveness or what the other person needs
Accept answer with validation
Do things differently
Watch exaggerations like always and never and beware of excuses
T in FAST
Withdrawing to avoid conflict and convey disapproval, distance and separation. Silent treatment
Stonewalling
Sometimes you have to be willing to compromise in this important DEAR MAN skill.
Negotiate
Make sure you don't attack, judge or mock
G in GIVE
What does each letter in TAPS stand for?
Talk to emotionally safe person
Ask for your needs
Pray or Pause
Seek support
Make sure to validate your feelings and needs as well as others
F in FAST
Tone, eye rolling, insults
Contempt
This DEAR MAN skill is a reminder to not get side tracked in a conversation and make sure you are staying grounded in the actual issue.
Mindful
Keeping good eye contact and active listening
I in GIVE
What acronym helps you decide if you should share information or not?
THINK
Do not abandon your values and beliefs
S in FAST
Ward off attacks by playing the victim
Defensiveness
Sick to the facts. Be careful not to insert opinions in this phase of DEAR MAN.
Describe
What does each letter stand for in the interpersonal skill GIVE?
Bonus 300 points if you can do it without looking
be Gentle, act Interested, Validate, Easy manner
What does THINK stand for?
True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, Kind
What do all 4 letters of FAST stand for?
300 bonus points if you can do it without looking
be Fair, Apology, Stick to your values, be Truthful
Attacking personality to character
Criticism