DEAR MAN
What does this skill help you do?
Be more effective in asserting your rights and wishes, "objectives effectiveness"
Act in such a way that you maintain positive relationships and that others feel good about themselves and about you, "relationship effectiveness"
What does this skill help you do?
Act in such a way that you keep your self respect in relationships, "self-respect effectiveness"
What are things to consider when trying to find and get people to like you?
Proximity, similarity, conversation skills, expressing liking, joining groups
True or False?
Destructive and interfering relationships are the same thing?
FALSE
Destructive relationships - these destroy the quality of the relationship or aspects of yourself (more dangerous)
Interfering relationships - makes it difficult for you to pursue goals
What does the D stand for?
Describe --> the situation, only the facts
What does the G stand for?
be Gentle --> nice, respectful
What does the F stand for?
be Fair --> be fair to yourself and the other person
What helps friendships last longer?
Mindfulness of others - observe, describe and participate
What opposite action do you need to practice in destructive relationships?
What does the E stand for?
Express --> your feelings and opinions
What does the I stand for?
act Interested --> listen and appear interested
What does the A stand for?
no Apologies --> Don't overapologize
True or false?
We often makes friends with people who have opposite interests and attitudes to our own?
FALSE
What skill can you use to prepare ahead of time for ending a destructive relationship?
Cope ahead
What does the A stand for?
Assert --> what you are asking for or saying no clearly
What does the V stand for?
Validate --> with words and actions
What does the S stand for?
Stick to values --> stick to your own values
What are some ways to work on conversation skills?
Ask and respond to questions, make small talk, self-disclose skillfully, don't interrupt, and learn things to talk about
What skill can you use if the relationship is interfering but not destructive?
Problem solve
What does the R stand for?
Reinforce --> reward the person ahead of time, the positive effects of getting what you want or need
What does the E stand for?
use an Easy manner --> smile, use a little humor
What does the T stand for?
be Truthful --> don't lie
True or false?
Building new relationships takes effort
TRUE
True or False?
It is recommended to end destructive relationships while in emotion mind?
FALSE
They should be ended while in wise mind