MINDFULNESS
Intentionally living fully in the present moment without judging and without attachment
a skill that involves choosing to do exactly the opposite of what your emotions tell you to do
What is Opposite Action?
Balancing opposites...both true and not true at the same time
What is "dialectics"?
The "D" in DEAR MAN
What is "describe" the current situation. Stick to the facts.
Finding the kernel of truth in another person's perspective or situation
What is validation?
Practicing mindfulness while sitting, standing, or lying quietly for a period of pre-determined time, while focusing and opening the mind.
What is meditation?
practical, logical, rational, task and rule oriented way of thinking grounded in facts and reason
What is "Reason Mind"?
Listening to music, taking a walk, using aromatherapy
What are self-soothe activities?
The "A" in DEAR MAN
What is "assert" yourself by "asking" what you want. Do not assume that others can read your mind.
Doing something for someone else. It is the first "C" in "ACCEPTS"
What is Contributing?
The three states of mind
What are reason mind, emotion mind, and wise mind?
stick to the facts without coloring them with opinions
What is "non-judgmental"?
notice your experience without adding to it or subtracting from it, without amplifying it or pushing it away.
What is Observation?
The "N" in DEAR MAN
What is "Negotiate"? Be willing to give to get.
we validate our emotional experience and integrate our ability to use reason. We use our heart and our head, being fully present in the moment
What is Wise Mind?
When you are ruled by your feelings, emotions, and urges
What is emotion mind?
we decrease suffering by being willing to accept it and relate to it rather than fight it
What is Radical Acceptance?
Go from simply watching your experience to being connected to your experience
What is participation?
The "G" in GIVE
What is "Gentle"? Be nice and respectful.
Change the emotion by acting opposite to its action urge
What is Opposite Action?
The three "what skills" of mindfulness
What are observe, describe, and participate?
proactively removing the means of acting on your urges to engage in addictive behaviors
What is Burning Bridges?
assists us when we drift from the present moment or when we struggle with dissociation, feeling unreal, or PTSD sx
What is Grounding?
The "T" in FAST
What is be "Truthful"? Don't lie or act helpless when you are not.
Motivate (and Organize) Us for Action
What are emotions?