Boundaries
It is most effective to make decisions in this state of mind?
What is Wise mind
Being willing to Give to Get.
What is What is "N" Negotiate of DEAR MAN?
With words and actions show that you understand the other person's feelings and thoughts about the situation.
What is Validate?
This module, interpersonal effectiveness, is to help improve what type of skills.
What are communication skills.
This is important to me; I make decisions with these in mind.
What are your values.
BONUS: what is the "S" of FAST?
Boundaries are universal across relationships TRUE or FALSE
What is FALSE
This is what to avoid naming in the "D" of DEAR MAN
What are feelings, assumptions, interpretations?
The "I" in GIVE.
What is (Act) Interested?
Bonus: describe how you can Act Interested.
"I don't deserve to get what I want or need" is an example of what?
What is a myth of Interpersonal Effectiveness?
No saying "I'm sorry"; looking ashamed, feeling bad for having an opinion or disagreeing.
What is (no) Apologies?
Bonus: Demonstrate asking for a raise with no apologies.
The four communication styles and which is considered be most effective
What is passive, aggressive, passive aggressive, ASSERTIVE
Tell the person about your Feelings and Opinions about the situation.
What is Express, the "E" of DEAR MAN?
Bonus: Express your feelings about not receiving a return call that your said you were going to receive.
Be nice and respectful; no attacks, no threats, no judging, no sneering.
What is (Be)Gentle?
"I am doing my best AND I still want to do better, try harder and be more motivated to change" is an example of what.
What is Dialectical Thinking or Walking the Middle Path?
What are two considerations of (Be) Fair?
What are your needs and the other person's needs?
The three boundary styles
What are porous, rigid, healthy
The "A" of the MAN of DEAR MAN
What is Appear confident?
Bonus: Demonstrate Appearing Confident without using words.
Use a little humor, Smile, Be light-hearted, soft over hard sell.
What is Easy Manner?
Bonus: Demonstrate Easy Manner - you are with your best buddy and you are going to talk to her about the sticking with original departure date for your hiking trip because she had changed the plans and now wants to leave a day later than had been originally planned.
If I am Checking the instructions, or figuring out what I want in the interaction, looking if my short-term goals getting in the way of long-term goals, check if my emotions are getting in the way of skill, looking if worries, assumptions and myths getting in my way, is the environment more powerful than my skills?
What is Troubleshooting?
The F. A. S. T. of FAST skill
What is
be Fair,
no Apologies,
Stick to values, and
be Truthful?
"If you do not agree with me on everything we cannot be friends" is an example of what boundary style?
What is rigid?
What is Objectives Effectiveness?
GIVE + DEAR MAN skills are used when this Effectiveness is the top priority.
What is Relationship Effectiveness?
If I am looking at: Capabilities, priorities, self-respect, rights, authority, relationship, long-term versus short-term goals, give and take, homework, timing.
What are Factors to Consider when asking for something or saying no
FAST + DEAR MAN skills are used when this Effectiveness is the top priority.
What is Self-Respect Effectiveness?