What is:
1) Finding the kernel of truth in another person's perspective or situation; verifying the facts of a situation.
2) Acknowledging that a person's emotions, thoughts, and behaviors have causes and are therefore understandable.
3) Not necessarily agreeing with the other person.
4) Not validating what is actually invalid.
100
When is invalidation helpful:
What is:
1) It corrects important mistakes (your facts are wrong)
2) It stimulates intellectual personal growth by listening to other views.
100
"Check the facts" means:
What is:
Check out whether your emotional reactions fit the facts of the situation.
Changing your beliefs and assumptions to fit the facts can help you change your emotional reactions to situations.
100
The gray area
What is Synthesis
200
Name one goal of mindfulness practice.
What is:
1) Reduce suffering and increase happiness (reduce pain, tension, and stress)
2) Increase control of your mind (stop letting your mind be in control of you)
3) Experience reality as it is (live life with eyes wide open)
200
Name one important thing to validate:
What is:
1) The valid (and only valid)
2) The facts of the situation
3) A person's experiences, feelings/emotions, beliefs, opinions, or thoughts about something.
4) Suffering and difficulties.
200
True or false:
Invalidation can be helpful or painful at the same time.
What is: True
200
When should you use "opposite action"
What is:
When your emotions do not fit the facts or when acting on your emotions is not effective, acting opposite (all the way) will change your emotional reactions.
200
Digging your heals in
What is being willful
300
When you are in reasonable mind, you are:
What is:
1) Cool
2) Rational
3) Task focused
*when in reasonable mind, you are ruled by fact, reason, logic, and pragmatics. Values and feelings are not important.
300
Describe one type of validation:
What is:
1) Listening and observing; staying aware; be in the moment
2) Accurate reflection; restate what the person has said
3) Observing and stating the unspoken, restate what the person's nonverbals are.
4) Focus on causes of behaviors including past and present; restate past and connect it to current issue.
5) Focus on a person's history and point out how current response is not helpful, restate the past and connect it to current issue and their choices.
6) Focus on treating the person as an equal; hope for the person; genuinely believe the person is capable of change.
300
Invalidation means:
What is:
1) Negates or dismiss behavior independent of the actual validity of the behavior.
2) To weaken, to nullify, to reject, to dismiss
300
Finish the sentence: Examining our thoughts and checking the fact can help us ....................
What is: Change our emotions.
300
Doing what is needed
What is willingness
400
Wise mind is:
What is:
1) The wisdom within each person.
2) Seeing the value of both reason and emotion.
3) Bringing the left brain and right brain together.
4) The middle path.
400
Choose the most valid response:
1) Think about your day when the other person is talking about his or her day.
2) Throw yourself into listening about the other person's day.
What is:
2
400
Give an example of an invalidating response:
What is:
1) Reject self-description as inaccurate
2) Reject a normal response
3) Reject response to events as incorrect or ineffective
4) Dismiss or disregard
5) Directly criticize or punish
6) Reject and link responses to socially unacceptable characteristics.
400
Fill in the blanks: Many emotions and actions are set off by our ____________ and ____________ of events not by the events themselves.
What is: thoughts and interpretations.
400
This does not mean you agree
What is validation
500
Emotion mind is:
What is:
1) Mood-dependent
2) Emotion-focused
* when in emotion mind, you are ruled by your moods, feelings, and urges. Facts, reason, and logic are not important.
500
Why validate:
What is:
1) It improves our relationships by showing we are listening and understanding.
2) It improves interpersonal effectiveness by reducing:
pressure to prove who is right
negative reactivity
anger
3) It makes problem solving, closeness, and support possible.
4) Invalidation hurts.
500
How can invalidation be painful:
What is:
1) You are being ignored.
2) You are note being repeatedly misunderstood.
3) You are being misread.
4) You are being misinterpreted.
5) Important facts about your life are ignored or denied.
6) You are receiving unequal treatment.
7) You are being disbelieved when being truthful.
8) Your private experiences are trivialized or denied.
500
When should you use the skill of "problem solving".
What is: when the facts themselves are the problem, solving the problem will reduce the frequency of negative emotions.