Radical acceptance
True or False: Radical acceptance means you should be OK with the thing you're accepting
FALSE: You can radically accept something AND not like it at the same time
Donna's boyfriend cheated on her, she just found out and is driving to his house to confront him and bash his car windows in. What helpful radical acceptance statement could Donna tell herself to get her to be more accepting of the situation and avoid irreparable damage?
"This sucks and is painful. What he did is n not excusable but I'd rather not go to jail for vandalism. It'll just make everything worse"
Or some version of knowing the situation is not right AND acting on the anger will not result in anything.
What happens when you refuse to accept reality?
You just end up wasting energy on "whats not fair" instead of moving on with your life and adapting to what's happening.
What's a common myth about acceptance?
Accepting is weakness
Accepting is giving up
Accepting means you're OK with what happened
What happens if you don't practice radical acceptance?
You probably act in ways that cause more suffering such as engaging in behaviors to try to control the situation when you may have little to no control over it.