Boundaries
These are the 3 types of boundaries we set.
What are emotional, psychological, and physical boundaries?
This is a practice to help check in with your needs, that sometimes involves closing your eyes, listening to music or sound, and breathing.
What is meditation?
My sibling yelled at me and I punched them.
Emotional
We "check the facts" because sometimes our thoughts can lead to distressing __________.
What are emotions?
Someone with this love language probably enjoys hugs.
What is physical touch?
"Please keep 6 feet away from me" is an example of this kind of boundary.
What is phsyical?
These are cues that you feel physically that represent a basic human need. (ex: hunger)
What are instincts?
My dad assumes I ignored him because the dishes were not done even though he asked.
Rational
We "check the facts" because sometimes our emotions can alter the _________.
What are thoughts? What are perceptions? What are facts?
DAILY DOUBLE:
1. Someone with this love language might experience affection by hearing it.
2. Understanding another person's love language can help with this skill.
1. What are "words of affirmation"?
2. What is communication?
Being resistant to someone's opinion on Facebook whom you never met is an example of this kind of boundary.
What is psychological?
These are cues that arise from an emotional need.
What are urges (or impulses)?
DAILY DOUBLE:
1. I cried all afternoon because my friend ignored me and that must mean they're mad.
2. This is a question for my wise mind
1. Emotional
2. Does my friend ignoring me mean I did something wrong? Are there other reasons my friend could be ignoring me?
When we "check the facts," it is important to name the facts without ________.
What are judgments? What are emotions?
It felt good when my family helped to organize my room when I was busy.
What are "acts of service"?
Allowing someone to manipulate you using guilt is showing difficulty with these kinds of boundaries.
What is emotional?
This is an opinion formed - consciously or unconsciously - based on facts, emotions, and priorities.
What are judgments?
I tell myself I can study harder next time when I got a low score on my test.
Wise Mind
This question asks if I am assuming the worst case scenario.
What is a catasprophe?
I bought my friend their favorite snack when I noticed they were having a difficult day.
What is "receiving gifts"?
This is the most helpful tool in setting and maintaining your boundaries.
What is validation/self-validation?(checking the facts for validation)
DAILY DOUBLE:
This concept understands that two opposing views/ideas can both be true.
What are dialectics? What is balancing opposites?
I lied and said I was sick because I wanted to avoid the plans I had made.
Emotional
DAILY DOUBLE:
"Check the facts" can lead to using this type of coping skill.
What is "opposite action?"
For my mother's birthday, she wanted the whole family to be together instead of gifts.
What is "quality time?"