Dialectics
The idea that two opposing views could both be right at the same time.
What is dialectics?
With validation we are listening for the ______in the other person's perspective.
What is the kernel of truth?
When you pick a behavior you want to change it must be _______ and _______.
Specific and measurable.
We can reduce a behavior by with holding the reinforcer we'eve been looking for.
What is extinction?
This should never be underestimated when thinking dialectically
What is the power of AND?
Validation communicates "this" to the other person
What is that their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors make sense given the situation.
Also acceptable "YOU ARE NOT CRAZY FOR FEELING THAT WAY"
Increases the frequency of a behavior by providing or giving a rewarding consequence.
What is positive reinforcement?
A consequence that decreases a behavior by adding something or removing something negative.
What is punishment?
Bobby got caught smoking weed with some friends. Since he has been caught Bobby's mother has been researching rehab centers and sobbing on the phone with her sister. Bobby blew his mother's concerns off and told her to chill out its 2019 and no one cares if you smoke weed. (Think about dialectical dilemmas)
What is making too much of typical adolescent behaviors vs. making light of problem behaviors
Validation does not necessarily mean _______.
that you like or agree with the other person
Increases the frequency of a behavior by removing something negative.
What is negative reinforcement?
What is the behavioral burst?
Lately Tammy has been feeling down on herself. Her friends are taking several AP's and making high grades. Tammy gets a 95 on her science test that she studied for. Tammy says to herself "Its not like I'm smart, I just got lucky on that test. (Think cognitive errors)
What is the cognitive error, "disqualifying the positive"
We can use this skill when we are confused or frustrated with our own emotions.
What is self-validation?
Bobby's mom wants him to stop smoking weed. She decided that she would pay him $50 for every drug test he could pass and that she would drug test him monthly. Since setting this rule Bobby has only failed 2 drug tests and only smokes occasionally.
What is an example of positive reinforcement?
This type of reinforcement creates behaviors that are the most difficult to change or stop
Intermittently reinforcement
Becky with the good hair tells her therapist "making phone calls makes me anxious so I can't make my own appointments".
What is Emotional Reasoning?
Bobby just found out he is not getting into his dream college. He is devastated. His mom put her arm around him and told him "You are very smart and capable. Every door closes for reason, the next school will be a better fit for you". Mom was hoping Bobby felt validated. What did she do wrong?
Tammy spend 8+ hours a day on her phone. Her mom really wants Tammy to be on her phone less. Every time mom sees Tammy off her phone, she says "Oooh its so nice to see you off your phone and living in the real world!" When mom makes these comments, Tammy picks up her phone and retreats to her room. Mom is reinforcing ______
Tammy being on that phone!
Mom screams at her Tammy that she is tired of her disrespectful attitude and that she is going to be in big trouble if she pulls that with her again.
What is wrong with mom's attempt to curb her daughter's behaviors?
Undesired behavior is not described clearly
Consequences are vague
Mom is angry when presenting consequences