Dialectics
A consequence that increases the frequency of a behavior
What is a "Reinforcer"
Provide an example of opposite sides that can both be true.
What are:
I accept myself as I am, and I want to change some things.
I can disagree with someone and still remain friends.
Name one thing Validation is 'NOT'
What is...Options include -Validation is NOT necessarily agreeing with the other person -Validation is Not validating what is actually invalid (like bad behavior)
Behavior is increased by consequences a person wants, likes, or will work to get. Provide an example of it as well.
What is "Positive Reinforcement" i.e. rewards examples could include a paycheck, good grades, praise, a treat when you achieve a goal, etc.
Removing something you don't like, so you are more likely to change a behavior.
What is Negative Reinforcement.
The opposite of dialectical thinking
What is:
Black and white / all or nothing thinking
Name 2 reasons why it's important to validate.
What is...answers could include... -It improves our relationships by showing we are listening and understand -It improves interpersonal effectiveness by reducing anger, negative reactivity and pressure to prove who is right. -It makes problem solving, closeness and support possible -Because invalidation hurts.
Behavior is increased by consequences that stop or reduce or remove something negative and provide an example of this.
What is "negative reinforcement" i.e relief.
examples could include: -Taking out trash to stop someone nagging. -Putting on seat belt to make the seat belt reminder alarm stop. -taking an asprin to relieve headache pain, blocking out noise so you can study better.
Provide an example of an important opposite you are trying to balance in your own life.
What is...Possible examples include:
Working AND resting, Emotion regulation AND emotion acceptance, Accepting reality AND working to change it.
Invalidation can be helpful and painful at the same time. Provide an example of when invalidation is helpful.
What is when..
-It corrects important mistakes (Your facts are wrong).
-It corrects bad behaviors.
Reinforcing small steps toward the behavior you want. Provide an example from your own life.
What is "shaping"
Identify one thing to remember when using punishment.
What is
-Be sure that punishment is specific, time-limited and fits the "crime" -Avoid a punitive tone; let the consequences do the work. -If a natural punishment occurs, don't undo it. Don't add arbitrary punishment.
When you are overwhelmed with emotions and maybe can't even think straight.
What is
Being stuck in emotion mind.
Provide 3 examples of ways to think and act dialectically.
What are...Possible examples include: Let go of extremes, balance opposites, embrace confusion, look for similarities among people instead of differences, practice getting used to change, practice letting go of blame, pay attention to your effect on others and Ask wise mind "What am I missing?". etc.
Provide 3 ways to provide validation
What is..options include:
Active listening – make eye contact - Pay attention -Reflect back -"read minds" be sensitive to what is not being said -Understand -Acknowledge the valid -Show equality
One change you want to make personally, and what kind of reinforcer can you use?
What is:
(share your change and your reinforcers)
What are some negative reasons to avoid using punishment?
What is
-it really doesn't teach anything
- Punishment leads to avoidance of the person punishing.
When you can feel your emotions, mindfully, without being overwhelmed or acting impulsively.
What is
Wise Mind