Mindfulness
Name that "HOW" Skill: When you are eating, eat. When you are walking walk.
What is Stay Focused:
Do only one thing in the moment
stop multitasking
slow down
The skill you need when you have to make a tough decision
What is the Pros and cons
An example of opposite sides that can both be true.
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True or false? You must agree with the other persons point in order to validate is this kind of statement
False
The three parts of the emotion
What is the thoughts, body sensations and behaviours
Synthesis of Emotion Mind and Logical/Reasonable/Fact Mind
What is Wise Mind
What it's called when we don't want to do what works or what is needed
What is willfulness?
An example of an important opposite you are trying to balance in your own life.
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One thing that validation is NOT
Validating the invalid , not agreeing, praise etc.
These are reasons that emotions are important.
What is give us information, communicate to other people, and motivate us to do something
Noticing inside and outside of yourself, what is happening right now
What is to Observe
This is the skill to use when we have to accept things as they are rather than fighting reality
What is the half smile?
One of the benefits of practicing dialectics
Avoids judgements
Avoids conflicts
Models flexible thinking for others
Helps get unstuck and move on
Name 2 reasons why it’s important to validate
It improves our relationships by showing we are listening and understand –
it improves interpersonal effectiveness by reducing anger and reactivity and pressure to prove who is right –
it makes problem solving possible.
Helps people self validate etc
Emotionally driven behaviours are called this
what is action urges
Throwing yourself into the present moment, and to experience fully without being self- conscious
What is to Participate
This is the skill you need when your thinking isn't helpful or accurate
What is check the facts?
A more dialectical way to say this statement:
“ You are totally wrong about that and I am right”
I can understand why you feel that way, and I feel different about it.
Validating ourselves sounds like this...
Describe feelings without passing judgement, respond in a way that shows that you take yourself seriously.
These three things provide food for emotions
What is
1. Doing what the emotion urges to do
2. Thinking what the emotion tells us to think
3. Tensing our bodies in response to the emotion
The skill (or skills) that help you let go of your thoughts or feelings about something and keep you moving forward
What is radical acceptance
How can an invalidating environment lead to self- invalidation?
An invalidating environment (whether intentional or not) can lead to self invalidation as the individual learns to question their thoughts and feelings. Ex. being told you are always overreacting leads to question emotional responses and individual thinks "OMG here I go again getting sad over something so stupid, Why am I like this?"
This is the definition of all or nothing thinking, one of the thinking mistakes
Thinking in extremes, without anything in between
Great or Terrible
Perfect or awful
How can we validate others?
Actively listen, reflect back, find kernel of truth, respond in a way that shows that you are taking the person seriously.
The skill you need to not give into the emotion urges and what the acronym stands for.
STOP
Stop,
Take a step back,
Observe,
Proceed mindfully