Paraphrasing
True or false: paraphrasing should be in your own words
What is true
Indirect or direct: Hey! That's not what you said last time!
What is direct
Flexible or Rigid: Going to a new place
What is flexible
Your mom tells you that you can have the last piece of cake, but when you get home you see your sister already ate it...
How might this make you feel?
What is:
mad/angry
sad
annoyed/irritated
disappointed
True or false: it's best to avoid making eye contact with someone who is talking to
what is false
True or false: paraphrasing should be longer than the original
what is FALSE
Indirect or Direct: umm, I think last time you said we could look at the what's happening picture before going over the homework
What is indirect
Flexible or Rigid: Always watching the same movie genre
what is Rigid
Your mom tells you that you can have the last piece of cake, but when you get home you see your sister already ate it...
How might your mom feel?
What is:
apologetic
sympathetic
True or False: It is ok to look around the room and fidget when someone else is talking to me
What is FALSE!
Why???
What is the difference between paraphrasing, summarizing, and stating the main idea?
What is:
Paraphrasing is when you put the words into your own words
summarizing is when you tell the shortened version of the story
the main idea is one to two words that state what the topic is.
what is true
What does it mean to be rigid
what is
not willing to change or adapt in a situation
How might your friend feel?
what is:
angry/mad
disappointed
confused
True or False: Even if I am listening to someone, if my body doesn't show it I can hurt someone's feelings
what is true
When summarizing, is it ok to leave out some details? Why?
we want to summarize what happened, not tell the whole story!
How could correcting someone in a direct way make them feel?
What is:
embarrassed
annoyed /irritated
sad
mad
What does it mean to be flexible?
what is
being able to change or adapt our behavior in situations. It helps us handle hard situations and lets others have good thoughts about us
You tell your friend a small fib because you didn't want to hurt their feelings... your friend finds out that you didn't tell them the truth...
How might you feel
what is:
apologetic
disappointed
mad at yourself
What does it mean to "check in with someone"
what is
occasionally make eye contact with the person to show you are still engaged in the conversation
When should we use paraphrasing / summarizing?
what is all the time!
talking about a movie or a show
telling a story that happened earlier in the day
Act it out:
Your friends want to go see a movie that you heard is terrible, how should you tell them it's not worth going to see it?
Your friend's mom suggests you all go see a movie that you heard is terrible, how should you tell her it's not worth going to see it?
What is
direct communication was used for the first one
indirect communication was used for the second one
Name 3 ways you are flexible and 3 ways you are rigid
what is
correct self ID
When should we consider other people's perspectives?
what is ALL THE TIME!!!
1. listening
2. thinking
what is:
1. check in, smile, nod, raise eyebrows, respond with an appropriate comment/question
2. tell them "let me think" or use "hmmm"