Skills
What I do to tolerate painful events, urges and emotions when i CANT change the situation right away
What are DISTRESS TOLERANCE SKILLS
What is the S in the STOP skill
I am going through a break - up and I have the INTENSE urge to self sabotage, drop out of school, quit my job and move to Timbuktu.....
What is a CRISIS
(bonus if you can talk about how distress tolerance skills fit in here....)
Notice what is going on inside and outside of you. What is the situation? What are your thoughts and feelings?
What is the O in the STOP skill?
When something happens and I feel like I am going to EXPLODE, or flip the table, scream at the top of my lungs, throw my phone....instead I can....
what is the STOP skill
Act with awareness. Ask Wise Mind - what actions will make it better or worse?
What is the P (Proceed Mindfully) in the STOP skill
Act out the STOP skill
Act it out with your team :)
Tobias gets a new job. He is a cashier at a pet store! On his first day on his way to the new job, he is stuck in a HUGE traffic jam on the way to work and he will be late.
Should he:
A - drive into the car in front of him?
B - spend the next 15 min sweating, swearing and thinking he is a horrible person?
C - Take a breath. Notice what he is feeling. Pull over and call his new boss and apologize that he will be late.
C !!!
Take a step back from the situation.
Take a break
Take a deep breath
Do not let your feelings make you act impulsively
what is the T in the STOP skill
Tobias is going to a dance! He is so excited. He walks into the dance hall and immediately see's his ex dancing with another person.
Talk us through what you would do if you were Tobias - HINT - use the STOP skill
Did you use the STOP skill