General Convo Tips
An example of a unique question to ask a PNM that would make your conversation stand out.
(depends on the Answer)
Examples:
What is, If you were a ghost where would you haunt?
What is, Where is home to you?
True or False: its not okay to shake a PNMs hand to greet her.
What is, TRUE- should never touch a PNM
The round that requires the most conversation starters. (aka the ability to hold onto a dying convo)
What is, Community Round!
You are learning so much about so many people, Follow up questions are Key!! You want PNMs to know you are interested and have them remember ADPi wanted to know more about them. You also need to be able to hold a convo well because PNMs are nervous and struggle to keep up the convo- you're in charge.
A PNM that you really like is interested in hearing about if you guys attend parties.
Optional Answer: Mention being a balanced house in terms of having fun while also focusing on our studies.
What is, we are a balanced house
The best way to keep a conversation from dying.
What is, Ask Lots of Open Ended Questions!
True or False: Its okay to talk to your hometown bestie who is rushing about MSS and how they are golden because they were in the green.
What is, FALSE!!! No PNM, or New member really, should know about MSS or how it runs. MSS is only for Deltas, just as all things said in chapter are not to be discussed with others.
The round that is less about ADPi and More about getting to know the PNM.
What is, Round 1- Community Round!!
A PNM asks "what Frat is your brother house" You respond with:
Try to give an answer that does not ignore the PNM nor states that you cant talk about fraternities. If they bring up boys (One of the 6 B's), try to bring the conversation to talking about the greek system as a whole or away from frats.
Optional Answer: What is, We hang out with many different fraternities and we work to maintain friendships all across the greek system including numerous sisterhood events with different sororities!
The 6 B's that should not be mentioned in a recruitment conversation.
What is, Bacon, Booze, Boys, (O)Bama, Bible, Bucks
True or False: If a PNM brings up Drinking in pref you are allowed to talk about it.
What is, TRUE. You can talk about us being a balanced house. In pref a PNM can ask anything and you should answer honestly (Never bash another house)
The Round that you should share your Why ADPi.
What is, Preference Round!!
Exception: if they ask you in another round
Its between ADPi and another sorority. Your rush crush heard that the other sorority has a mean house mom and is talking alot about that. you respond:
Basically any answer is correct that does not shame the other house and instead dodges the question to focus on great things about ADPi.
(Optional Answer)
What is, Im not really sure about their house, Our house mom Elly is so sweet, we love inviting her down to sisterhoods or having crazy conversations with her in the hallways!
What you should do if you are not enjoying the conversation with a PNM and still have like 5 minutes left.
What is, Make the conversation fun!!! Ask silly questions, get the PNM to open up, maybe they are nervous.
True or False: Saying "I see you in ADPi" is bid promising.
What is, FALSE! PNMs want to know they would be a good fit!
The best round to ask a PNM "what kind of pickle best represents her life in high school and why".
What is, Community Round!!
Make that conversation memorable!!
A PNM Expresses to you that ADPi is their number one choice. They are ride or die ADPi. You Respond:
Optional Answer: What is, Tell them you like them too! (if you do). Its okay to tell someone you see them in ADPi or you know many people they would click well with. Just DO NOT BID PROMISE. You cannot say "youre are going to be an ADPi, dont worry about it"
The best way to refer to the PNM in greeting.
What is, WITH HER NAME!!!
Super important to use her name for hellos, goodbyes, questions, everything. Names are important and they make people feel seen when someone they have only talked to a couple times know it!
True or False: All ADPis are and should be referred to as your sisters.
What is, FALSE: its strange to PNMs
The round you should start sealing the deal, letting the PNM know you see them in ADPi.
What is, House Tours!
The PNM you are talking to is super dry in conversation. She has made it clear ADPi is not one of her top houses but she is stressed out about choosing which house in the end. You spend your conversation talking about:
Optional Answer: What is, Talk about recruitment as a whole. How are you doing? Do you feel like you have found people who you can learn and grow with?