Family Roles
Which family role is described below?
"The "world" revolves around this person, causing them to become the center of attention. Others unconsciously take on the rest of the roles to compensate for the imbalance this person has caused."
The Addict
Which family role experiences these underlying feelings?
"inadequacy, fear, and helplessness"
The Caretaker (Enabler)
Is the following a healthy or unhealthy family dynamic?
"Each person has goals and plans to get there, and should be supported by the family"
Healthy
Fill in the blank (each blank is the same word)
"We ___ when it would be just as easy to tell the truth. ____s, specifically ____ of denial, were used to benefit the alcoholics and para alcoholics of our homes"
Lie(s)
Distraction, Grounding, Emotional Release, Self Love, Thought Challenge, Access Your Higher Self
Types of Coping Skills
Which family role is described below?
"They are quiet and reserved, careful to not make problems. This person gives up self needs and makes efforts to avoid any conversation regarding the underlying roles"
The Lost Child
Which family role experiences these underlying feelings?
"embarrassment, shame and anger"
The Mascot
Is the following a healthy or unhealthy family dynamic?
"feelings are expressed"
Healthy
True or False
"We constantly seek approval and affirmation"
True
Having trusted people to talk to including friends and family, or pets
Social Supports
Which family role is described below?
"This person is the one who needs to make the family and role players look good. They ignore the problem and present things in a positive manner as if the roles within the family did not exist."
The Hero
Which family role experiences the following underlying feelings?
"fear, guilt and shame"
The Hero
Is the following a healthy or unhealthy family dynamic?
"dependents use of drugs is the most important thing in a family life"
Unhealthy
Fill in the blank
"We ______ to changes over which we have no control"
Overreact
Prayer, belief in a higher power, or a sense of connection to something higher than oneself
Spirituality
Which family role is described below?
"This person will often make inappropriate jokes about those involved. Though they do bring humor to the family roles, it is often harmful humor"
The Mascot
Which family role experiences these underlying feelings?
"guilt, loneliness, neglect, and anger"
The Lost Child
Name three characteristics of a dependent or addicted family
1. Dependents use of drug is the most important thing in family life
2. Drug use is not the cause of family problems, it is denial which is the root
3. Blaming others, don't make mention it, covering up, alibis, loyalty of family enables
4. Nobody may discuss problem outside the family
5. Nobody says what they feel or think
True or False
"We can only be irresponsible because so much of our lives are all or nothing"
False
Exercise, walking, running, yoga, dancing, etc.
Physical Activities
Which family role is described below?
"This person often acts out in front of others. They will rebel, make noise, and divert attention from the person who is addicted and their need for help in addiction recovery"
The Scapegoat
Which family role experiences these underlying feelings?
"shame, guilt and empty"
The Scapegoat
Name three characteristics of a healthy family system
1. Self worth is high
2. communication is direct, clear, specific and honest and feelings are expressed
3. rules are human, flexible, and appropriate to change
4. It is natural to link and be open to society
5. each person has goals and plans to get there, and should be supported by the family
Fill in the blank
"We guess at what _____ behavior is. Because of our environment, we had no role models so we acted the way we saw other people act, people we thought were _____, and continue this performance into our adult lives"
Normal
Deep breathing, 5-4-3-2-1, progressive muscle relaxation techniques, hot/warm shower or bath
Calming techniques