(Un)Healthy Relationships
True/False: It's ok for my partner to try and control what I wear and who I hang out with.
False
Agree or Disagree: "You need to be vulnerable with a partner in order for the relationship to work"
EMPOWERR agrees with this but we know it can be hard at first. It takes time to build enough trust to open up to someone but hopefully you feel safe enough with this person to be vulnerable and share your wants and needs with them.
What is one way that you can support a friend who is being abused?
Listen to them; believe them; don't judge them; give them resources like a hotline number
Name two examples of a healthy couple in the media. Why do you think it's a healthy relationship?
Michelle and Barack Obama. Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds.
1 in ____ adolescents in the U.S. is a victim of physical, sexual, emotional or verbal abuse from a dating partner
Three
This quality is in a healthy relationship when you understand and acknowledge your partners feelings and they do yours.
Respect
What are the three types of communication? Which one is most effective?
Passive, Aggressive, Assertive. Assertive is best because it takes your feelings and your partner's feelings into consideration while getting your message across.
Your friend is the abuser. How would you help them?
Don't ignore the abuse; don't justify their behaviors; acknowledge that they may not know they're an abuser; ask their partner if they need help; help them get professional help; tell a trusted adult
Name a song whose lyrics depict a toxic relationship.
Love The Way You Lie - Rhianna
What percentage of teens who were in a violent relationship ever told anyone about the abuse? A. 33% B. 67% C. 91%
33%
Name five qualities found in a healthy relationship
Respect, Communication, Equality, Compromise, Support, Good boundaries, Trust, etc.
What are "I" statements? Are they beneficial or harmful to a relationship?
It focuses on your own feelings and experiences. It does not focus on your perspective of what the other person has done or failed to do.
Ex. I wish I was treated better; I feel like you don't respect me
Beneficial!
True/False: You should always encourage your friend to break up with an abusive partner immediately.
False: This has to be their decision to make. Sometimes telling a friend to break up with an abusive partner before they're ready can make them think you're not a support for them.
What app do you think can become most toxic for a couple? Why?
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Females in which age group report the highest rates of experiencing violence in a relationship? A. 16-24 B. 28-35 C. 50-68
A. 16-24
Name three healthy strategies you can use when having conflict with your partner.
Taking a time out, "I" messages, Assertive Communication, Talking when you've both cooled off
Act It Out: You and your partner just started dating. Your partner really enjoys PDA but you aren't about it. Set a boundary and clearly communicate.
In order to get the points, you have to talk assertively and explain yourself clearly.
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Teen females that are victims of dating violence will generally go to ____ first for help
Most tell a friend first.
What are some other people you may go to for help?
Do you think it is healthy or unhealthy to share passwords to your phone and social media with your partner? Give me 3 reasons why to back up your answer.
Unhealthy!
1. Shows that you think they may be cheating (a sign that maybe you shouldn't be together)
2. Shows that you're unable to build trust in other ways
3. Shows that maybe you need to work on yourself and your ability to trust someone before entering a relationship.
What percentage of young teens (11-14) in relationships know friends who have been verbally abused (called worthless, stupid, ugly, etc.) by a partner? A. 21% B. 47% C. 72%
B. 47%
Name three reasons why a teen might stay in an abusive relationship.
They think they will change, they don't have a support system, they are scared of retaliation, they are financially dependent, they have no where else to go or talk to, etc.
Give an example of a physical, mental/emotional, sexual, and social boundary for a friend or partner.
Physical: Don't touch my back.
Mental/Emotional: Don't flirt with other people
Sexual: Don't kiss me in public.
Social: I need to spend an equal amount of time spending time with you and friends.
Your friend is convinced that they are in a perfectly healthy relationship. They don''t want help but you know it's toxic/abusive. What can you do?
Continue to show up for them, send them relationship quizzes, send them resources, tell a trusted adult
True or False: Lyrics that are violent have no impact on us. It's just artists making art.
False! Pop culture is hugely influential on our society (including helping young people know what to expect in relationships) and influences the ways we sometimes blame or don't support victims
How many MILLION high school students nationwide experience physical abuse from a dating partner in a single year? A. 1 million B. 1.2 million C. 1.5 million
C. 1.5 Million