What We Have Learned
What is a good thing to do when arguing to allow yourself space to cool off
Take a time out
I don’t know what’s worth fighting for
Or why I have to scream
I don’t know why I instigate
And say what I don’t mean
I don’t know how I got this way
I’ll never be alright
So I’m breaking the habit
I’m breaking the habit tonight
Breaking the Habit- Linkin Park
These are items that might be on an anger control plan
Exercise, social support, taking a timeout, addressing the feelings underlying the anger, journaling, meditation, etc
This actress calls recovery the single greatest achievement in her life. She is known for being the youngest sister of a masked serial killer
Jamie Lee Curtis
Depressed mood, social withdrawal, loss of interest or pleasure, recurring thoughts of death, fatigue. These are symptoms of what?
Depressive episode
This is the Therapeutic Value of the 3rd Step
This Step is about commitment. We need to make a commitment to finding a new and more effective way of living.
I’m breaking out of this cage
I’m standing up, I’mma face my demons
I’m manning up, I’mma hold my ground
I’ve had enough, now I’m so fed up
Time to put my life back together right now (now)
Not Afraid- Eminem
What are the 4 cue categories for anger?
Physical, emotional, behavioral, cognitive
Famous and well known for his use of the F word, this actor reports that his wife and daughter "put my *** in rehab the next day, and supported me, and pushed me, and gave me a reason to get up and go and chase it day after day.”
He has been sober since 1981
Samuel L. Jackson
These are some of the impairments that can be caused by Mania or Depression
Spending too much money, losing friends/family due to behavior, leaving a loving spouse.
This is the 3rd step
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
It seems like every day's the same
And I'm left to discover on my own
It seems like everything is gray
And there's no color to behold
They say it's over and I'm fine again, yeah
Try to stay sober feels like I'm dying here
Fine Again- Seether
Who can you reach out to for social support
Family, friends, AA/NA
Famous princess from another galaxy who was very open about her history of substance use.
Carrie Fisher
Increased goal-directed behaviors, increased euphoria and self-esteem, racing thoughts, pleasure seeking without regards to consequences, decreased need for sleep. These are symptoms of what?
Manic Episode
Name an I feel statement (what is an I feel statement)?
I feel______ when ____
I am just a worthless liar
I am just an imbecile
I will only complicate you
Trust in me and fall as well
I will find a center in you
I will chew it up and leave
I will work to elevate you
Just enough to bring you down
Sober- Tool
What is the purpose of an anger meter?
To track level of anger and identify increases to prevent reaching a 10.
This Disney child star and now famous for both funny and serious roles, and currently starring in a Netflix show traveling the world, this actor was arrested in 2013 and sent to rehab twice for Cocaine Addiction
Zac Effron
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy- recognizing the thoughts that lead to behaviors which then create emotions/reactions.
Name the most important fair fighting rule to you.
Name the fair fighting rule you struggle most with
No yelling,
No stonewalling,
Timeout
Come to an agreement
One topic at a time
Why do I feel upset
Take turns speaking
But it's a hard way to go, on the straight and narrow
When everybody in town points a finger at you
But they ain't had to walk with the weight that you've hauled
They don't know you at all, but they think that they do
Bottles and Bibles- Tyler Childers
What is an anger control plan?
A list of coping skills and tools to help control anger in the moment and prevent anger outbursts.
April 20, 2020 marked this music artists 12th year sober. Reports that the 12 step support groups helped him obtain his sobriety. He has an entire album speaking about his use.
Eminem
These two things together have been found to be the most effective treatment for Bipolar Disorder
Psychotherapy and Medication