Hidden Rules
What is the definition of a hidden rule?
A rule that everybody knows, but isn't always written or spoken.
A friend that you really like, tells you that you are being too silly.
Size 2 - take the feedback and figure out what you should be doing.
What is a quality of a good friend?
honest, kind, thoughtful, respectful, protective, etc
You tried to throw a paper towel into the trash can, but it didn't go in. Another student points out that your paper towel missed the trash can. What can you do that would be a responsible choice?
You can go back and throw it into the trash can.
What does the green zone mean?
You're focused and ready to learn
What is an example of a hidden rule at school?
answers will vary
Don't sit in someone else's seat when a sub comes
don't sit on your desks
You really want to tell a story about your weekend but a friend is already talking about something they are going to do next weekend.
size 1 - wait your turn
How would you get an acquaintance to be your friend?
Ask them to hang out... Ask your parent and your friend if you can call them....etc
A staff member notices that you are getting a little frustrated in class and asks you to take a break. What can you do that would be a responsible choice?
You can take the break and move on.
What does the blue zone mean?
You're tired, sad or not feeling well and it's hard to concentrate.
What is an example of a hidden rule at a store?
Answers will vary... Don't run in the aisles, don't have races in the shopping carts....etc
A friend is being too loud and you can not concentrate.
Size 2 - you should ask the friend to be a little quieter.
How would you ask a friend to do something with you outside of school?
Ask parents first, then call or text the friend to see if they can go to the park, movies, come to your house, etc
A classmate says you cheated in a recess game. You know that you did cheat, but you do not want to admit it. Others say they do not want you to play anymore. How should you respond responsibly?
You can apologize, or you can accept that others do not want to play with you because you were dishonest with them.
What is a strategy you could use to get back into the green zone when you are stuck in the yellow zone?
Take deep breath...get a drink of water...positive self talk
What is an example of a hidden rule when you are at a friend's house?
answers will vary
i.e. Don't go through their stuff
don't go into their refrigerator without permission
You get back to class and they are finishing up an activity that you are really disappointed that you missed.
Size 2 - You need to use a strategy to join what the group is doing currently. You can ask a teacher to do it later if you have time.
True or False....A good friend makes hurtful jokes about their friends.
false
James accidentally ripped a page in a media center book. What can he do that would be a responsible choice?
He can let a staff member know.
In the orange zone you begin to feel like you will lose control. What can you do to calm down and get back to the green zone.
answers will vary
What is an example of a hidden rule at a concert?
Answers will vary
I.e. quiet voice before it starts, no voice when they are playing, clapping with the crowd(not past), still body...etc.
A friend is having a get together and you are not invited.
Size 2 - This will be very disappointing, but sometimes we will not be invited. You can share that you are disappointed or you can just do your own fun plan with others who are not going.
What would a good friend do if they saw their friend alone and crying?
Stop and ask if they were ok or needed help
You run in the hallway and a staff member asks you to turn back and walk. You go back, but you try to run through the hallway again. The staff member asks you to turn back and try a third time. What could you have done to prevent having to go back and walk?
You could have walked down the hallway the first time.
How do you feel when you are in the red zone and what strategy do you use to get back into the green zone.
very angry...about to explode...or body is out of control (not always angry...over excited can also be red) strategies will vary