Session 1: Community Temperature
What two types of maturity should go hand in hand?
Spiritual and emotional maturity.
Finish the sentence: Communicate clearly rather then________________.
Assume
What tool did we use to explore our family history and relationships?
A genogram.
What can be hidden beneath the surface of an iceberg?
A much larger portion of the iceberg.
What are we encouraged to live from instead of outside expectations and pressures?
Our true self and God-given identity.
What are the four stages of emotional maturity we discussed?
Emotional infant
Emotional child
Emotional adolescent
Emotional adult
What is “mind reading”?
Expecting someone to know what you're thinking or feeling without telling them.
What can understanding your family help you understand?
Yourself
In the relationship iceberg, what can be hidden beneath our behaviors?
Emotions.
What scale did we use to reflect on how closely we're living according to our values?
The Integrity Scale, 1–100.
What does CTR stand for?
Community Temperature Reading.
Instead of expecting someone to “just know,” what should we do?
Clarify expectations.
What did we explore across generations?
Family stories, patterns, and relationship dynamics.
Name ONE thing Jesus modeled when interacting with others.
Entering another person's world, listening before speaking, seeking understanding, or loving without needing to agree.
Is avoiding conflict out of fear true peacemaking?
No. It can create false peace.
Name one of the five CTR communication tools.
Appreciations; Hopes & Wishes; New Information; Complaints with Possible Solutions; or Puzzles.
Name TWO things we can choose instead of mind reading.
Assume positive intent, clarify expectations, verify assumptions, or over-communicate.
What did we call major life events that can impact a family?
“Earthquake” life events.
What can be more powerful than giving someone advice?
Being present/listening
Name THREE dirty fighting tactics.
Examples: silent treatment, blaming, name-calling, sarcasm, criticizing, shouting, avoiding, lying, passive-aggressive behavior...
What is the key truth from Session 1?
It is impossible to be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature.
Complete: “Clear expectations reduce ______.”
Confusion, disappointment, and conflict.
What does God invite us to do with unhealthy family patterns?
Break unhealthy patterns and create a new legacy in Christ.
Complete: “Listening is closely connected to ______.”
Loving.
What are the first 4 steps to Clean Fighting?
1.Ask permission.State the problem. "I notice..."
2.State why it is important to you. I value..."
3.Fill in the following sentence:When you...I feel..."
4.State your request clearly, respectfully, specifically
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