How you might feel if your friend refuses to speak to you.
Taking 5 of these can help you switch from an "emotional" brain to a "thinking" brain
Deep breaths
How can you tell how someone might be feeling without them telling you?
non-verbal communication (facial expressions, tone/volume of voice, body language, behaviors)
Thinking about only the negative parts of things
What is "dark glasses"
Good choice/bad choice? Slamming doors, breaking things, being rough?
Bad choice. How can we calm down if feeling this way?
What is the emotion that comes from being upset that someone has something you wish you had?
Jealousy/envy
Name one way to calm down when angry that involves numbers
Counting to 10, up or down (or both). As many times as you need.
How should you let an adult or someone know you are having trouble with a task?
ask for help, raise your hand, ask to talk to them later.
Looking at things in only extreme or opposite ways. (thinking of things as good or bad, never or always, all or none, friend or enemy, etc.)
What is "black and white thinking"
True/False? I can change how I think about a situation?
True
How might you feel if you were yelled at for doing something that you did not do?
mad, upset, confused, anxious, sad, scared, worried, unsure
Looking at a situation from the outside. Pausing to look at the facts rather than acting on your emotions.
What is "checking the facts"
Making the same mistake over and over again causes what?
distrust
Blaming others for things that are your responsibility
True/False? How I think about something/someone impacts how I may feel about it/them
True
What is the emotion that means you feel bad about a choice you made?
Guilt/Guilty
Name something you can do when someone is angering you and you just cannot be around them anymore.
walk away, find someone to help you talk it out, take deep breaths, etc.
How can you tell if an apology is sincere?
they say, "I'm sorry"
say what you are sorry before
say how you will correct or change your behavior next time.
Judging something based on just one experience with it
What is "broad brush"
I can control my behaviors even when having negative feelings.
Yes! It is ok to feel what I feel, but I can control how I react by changing my thoughts and having a bank of appropriate coping skills.
Being physically or verbally agressive, teeth clenching together, elieving that you have been treated unfairly could elicit this emotion?
Anger
"I" feel angry when your use my things without asking.
What is an I statement
active listening involves?
eye contact
reflect/repeat back what the other said
nod head
reflection
Making predictions about what will happen in the future without enough evidence
What is involved in the thought triangle?
Thoughts, feelings, actions/behaviors