Coping Skills
What is a coping skill?
A coping skill is an activity or skill that you do to deal with emotions. Coping skills should make you feel calmer.
Typically negative emotions such as being sad, mad, annoyed, frustrated, depressed, uncomfortable, embarrassed, etc.
What is the MOST important characteristic in a HEALTHY relationship?
Respect!!
Are rumors and gossip bullying?
Yes, rumors can turn into bullying really quickly. Rumors are typically said repeatedly and can make the other person feel hurt, alone, and sad. If you hear a rumor, do not spread it! Just shut it down.
Who should you share your passwords with?
The only people who should have your passwords would be trusted adults in your life (parents/guardians).
Do not give passwords to anyone else, not even friends!
What is a value? What is an example of a value?
A value is something that someone deems important in life.
Examples: Connection, Physical Health, Emotional Health, Spirituality, Gratitude, Justice, Hard Work, Kindness, Open Mindedness, Presence, Privacy, Authenticy, Balance, etc.
True or False: Our emotions can affect other people around us
True!
Especially if we end up showing them as a negative behavior such as yelling, fighting, etc.
What is the I-Message formula?
I feel ______ when you ________ because _______. Next time, I need _________.
True or False: It is okay and funny to joke about someone else's appearance or family, especially if they are your friend
False!
Remember that everyone has insecurities and no one's life is perfect. These "jokes" can be extremely hurtful! Never joke about sensitive topics, even if it's your friend
True or False: When you delete something off social media, it's gone. You don't need to worry about it anymore.
False!
When you post something on the internet, it is there forever whether you delete it or not. Also, remember that people can screenshot things and share them around!
What is the suicide prevention and mental health crisis hotline? (Hint: 3 digit number)
988
Help is always available. Please call or text 988 if you or someone you know is experiencing a mental health crisis.
Everyone in your team says one trusted adult that you could talk to if you have a problem or are worried about yourself or someone
Answers may vary
Examples: Parent, guardian, grandparents, aunt/uncle, siblings, teacher, counselor, principal, neighbor, nurse, doctor, etc.
What does respectful communication look like?
Answers may vary. Examples: Eye contact, listening, nodding your head, not rolling eyes/making faces, I Statements, don't interrupt, respect other's view points, no swearing or hate speech
What is an Ally? (100 points)
What is an Upstander? (100 points)
What is a Bystander? (100 points)
Ally - Someone who comforts the victim. They might ask if they are okay, hang out with them, invite them to eat with them, etc.
Upstander - Stands UP for the victim. Tells an adult, says something, does something to help!
Bystander - Stands by and watches. Doesn't do anything to help.
What is wrong with this profile?
Profile type: Public
Ella Rose Jones💗
13. Conant Middle High School '29. Field Hockey #30🏑
Way too much information. Make it a bit simpler without giving away too much information! You can still have a bio be personal without all of that information. Also, make sure you keep your accounts private!
What does LLC mean and what is it referring to? (Hint: Rachel from MCVP lessons)
Look
Listen
Check in
Important for boundaries! Make sure you are looking at their facial expressions and body language, listening to their words and tone of voice, and then if you're not sure what they mean or what they want - it's okay to ask! Check in with them!
Annie is feeling stressed out and she feels like she's on edge all the time lately. She vents to her friend about it and her friend hands her a vape/cigarette and says "Here try this! This always helps me feel calm"
Is this a healthy or unhealthy coping skill?
Unhealthy!
Smoking is not healthy overall. There are other things that Annie and her friend could do to feel better such as talk to a friend, listen to music, or draw.
Make an I statement for this blame statement
"You're being so distant and quiet. You're acting like you don't want to hang out with me anymore. If you don't want to be my friend, just say it."
Answers may vary.
Example: I've been feeling confused and sad because we haven't been hanging out as much lately. Is everything okay? OR I've been feeling confused and sad because we haven't been hanging out as much lately. Can we hang out soon?
What are 4 ways you could respond to online bullying? (100 points per way)
Block, Report, Do not respond, Do not share, screenshot, Support the victim, Stand up for the victim
Someone is requesting to follow/add you on a social media app. You don't recognize the name or their profile picture and you have no mutual friends. You look at their photo and notice that the person looks around your age. They also send you a message that says "hey what's up?"
What do you do?
Do not answer. You don't know this person so there is no need to talk to them. You also have no mutual friends. Delete the friend request and ignore.
If they keep messaging you or adding you, you can block or report them as well.
What is Ms. Hannaford's favorite flavor of ice cream? (400 points if you get my top favorite. 200 points if you get my second favorite)
Peanut Butter Chocolate is my first favorite. Second favorite is Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough
What is empathy and how can we show empathy to others?
Empathy is being able to put yourself into someone else's shoes and really imagine how they are feeling.
We can show empathy by saying things like "wow, that must have been really hard. I'm here for you"
"It makes sense why you're upset. I would feel the same way if I were you"
Practicing Body Language and Empathy
One member of your group will be given an emotion. The other members of your group must guess the emotion. If you get it right, you earn the points.
Answers may vary
What is the difference between conflict and bullying?
Bullying is when someone is targeting an individual repeatedly to make them feel less. There is a power imbalance where the bully takes power and control. This can be verbal, cyber, relational, or physical.
Conflict is a problem between 2 or more people that usually can be solved with conversation or compromise. They may need the help of an adult. Both people are involved in the conflict.
You see an embarrassing photo of another peer on social media. You think it's funny so you take a screenshot and send it to your friend.
Is this cyberbullying?
Yes, this is cyberbullying. You are spreading around something hurtful about another person through social media/internet. Instead if you see something like that, report it immediately.
Who created the personality quiz we took about careers? Hint: John _ _ _ _ _ _ _. The quiz was called the _ _ _ _ _ _ _ Code (500 points).
Bonus 10 points each letter if you can name the different personality characteristics.
R, E, S, I, C, A
DR. JOHN HOLLAND created the HOLLAND Code. He studied the world of work and found that people land in 6 different personalities that help them choose a career path.
Realistic, Enterprising, Social, Investigative, Conventional, Artistic.