Control
You go to a dine out and the waiter/waitress addresses you rudely. How do you respond?
A. "You must forget I determine your tip. Maybe you should be a little nicer."
B. "I noticed you all are busy. I understand there's a lot going on so I can wait to order while you take care of someone else if that's okay."
People you interact with routinely to complete tasks
Coworkers
One of the most common environments we find ourselves in. Most people spend a lot of time here.
Home
Someone cuts you off in traffic and you become fluent in sign language (the bird).
Appropriate or Inappropriate?
You are on your way to work and you get a flat tire...
A. Call to tell people about it, spending the remainder of the day and your mental energy on it
B. Practice acceptance in the moment. Do what you have to to address the problem and continue your day.
Someone/People you are close to, but not related to
Friends
Regardless of age, a place where you learn things with others
School
You are in the cafeteria and someone cuts the line in front of you...
A. Address them with confrontational tone
B. "Excuse me ma'am/sir, I wasn't sure if you were in a hurry or didn't see me in line, but would you like to go in front of me?"
You discover someone close to you transmitted their cold to you unknowingly. Do you?
A. Get upset/blame them for getting you sick, harboring resentment
B. Extend forgiveness and encourage them to better practice maintaining health and prevention measures for not getting sick/not getting others sick
People you are very close to, maybe even related to
Family
A place people spend a lot of time that majorly contributes to environmental stressors.
Work
You're doing a group activity/task and someone keeps talking over you...
A. Tell them to hush up, they have been talking enough
B. Soft approach: "Hey I am really glad you're sharing, but can please give someone else an opportunity to share their thoughts?"
Your boss unexpectedly fires you one day. How do you respond?
A. Slander the company's name out of frustration
B. Accept what has happened was predetermined and look for another job
People you work with in some capacity, but is more of a professional line of contact
Boss/Employer
A place you might stop briefly to get things you may need for driving, traveling, etc.
Gas Station
Someone is saying explicit and no-so-nice things to you...
A. Give it right back to em!
B. Walk away
Someone around you is talking about a heavy topic that is distressing for you to hear about. How do you address them?
A. "Quit talking about that! I don't like that!"
B. "Hey that's a sensitive topic for me. Is it okay if we talk about something else? Thank you
Bonus/trick question: Think! Generally, who contributes to our environment?
People/Everyone you interact with
A place you would go to gather necessities for your household. A lot of people don't necessarily enjoy going here, but have to.
Grocery Store
You are amid doing something and stressed out. Your friend/family member calls you and wants to talk to you. How do you respond?
A. Let it go to voicemail and don't respond
B. "Hey I would love to talk, I just can't right now. Is it okay if I call you back tomorrow?"
C. Answer the phone in the moment with, "What do you want? I'm busy!"