GROOMING
WHAT IS GROOMING
THE PROCESS AN ABUSER USES TO BUILD TRUST TO DRAW SOMEONE IN FOR THE PURPOSE OF ABUSING THEM
WHAT DOES SETTING BOUNDARIES MEAN?
ESTABLISHING LIMITS ON WHAT IS ACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR FROM OTHERS.
WHAT IS AN UNSAFE SECRET?
AN UNSAFE SECRET IS ONE THAT MAKES YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE OR CONFUSED AND IS OFTEN SOMETHING YOU ARE TOLD NOT TO SHARE.
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO DISCLOSE?
TO DISCLOSE MEANS TO TELL A TRUSTED ADULT WHEN SOMETHING UNSAFE IN HAPPENING TO YOU OR SOMEONE ELSE.
WHAT DOES A.C.T. STAND FOR?
A.C.T. STANDS FOR ASK, CARE, TELL
WHAT IS A RED FLAG OF GROOMING
RED FLAGS CAN BE: EXPENSIVE GIFTS, SPECIAL TREATMENT, TESTING BOUNDARIES AND UNSAFE TOUCHES
WHY ARE BOUNDARIES IMPORTANT?
BOUNDARIES ARE IMPORTANT BECAUSE THEY HELP PROTECT PERSONAL SPACE AND ENSURE THAT INDIVIDUALS FEEL SAFE AND RESPECTED.
HOW SHOULD YOU HANDLE AN UNSAFE SECRET?
YOU SHOULD TELL A TRUSTED ADULT ABOUT THE UNSAFE SECRET UNTIL YOU ARE HEARD AND HELPED.
WHY IS DISCLOSING IMPORTANT?
DISCLOSING IS IMPORTANT BECAUSE IT IS A STEP TOWARDS GETTING HELP AND STOPPING ABUSIVE SITUATIONS.
HOW CAN YOU ASK FOR HELP?
YOU CAN ASK FOR HELP BY DIRECTLY APPROACHING A TRUSTED ADULT AND EXPLAINING THE SITUATION.
WHY DO ABUSERS USE GROOMING?
TO WIN TRUST AND CREATE A BOND THAT MAKES IT EASIER TO MANIPULATE THE VICTIM
GIVE AN EXAMPLE OF A SAFE BOUNDARY.
TELLING A GRIEND NOT TO SHARE PERSONAL INFORMATION WITHOUT PERMISSION
GIVE AN EXAMPLE OF AN UNSAFE SECRET.
AN EXAMPLE OF AN UNSAFE SECRET COULD BE BEING TOLD NOT TO TELL ANYONE ABOUT INAPPROPRIATE TOUCHING.
WHO SHOULD YOU DISCLOSE TO?
YOU SHOULD DISCLOSE TO A TRUSTED ADULT.
WHY IS CARING IMPORTANT IN A.C.T.?
CARING IS IMPORTANT BECAUSE IT SHOWS SUPPORT AND EMPATHY, HELPING TJE PERSON FEEL SAFE TO SHARE THEIR EXPERIENCES.
NAME A WAY AN ABUSER MIGHT ISOLATE A VICTIM
BY LIMITING INTERACTIONS WITH FRIENDS AND FAMILY OR CREATING SITUATIONS WHERE THEY ARE ALONE WITH THE VICTIM.
WHAT MIGHT HAPPEN IF YOU DON'T SET BOUNDARIES?
IF BOUNDARIES ARE NOT SET, INDIVIDUALS MAY FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE OR TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF WHICH CAN LEAD TO ABUSIVE SITUATIONS.
WHY ARE UNSAFE SECRETS HARMFUL?
UNSAFE SECRETS ARE HARMFUL BECAUSE THEY CAN LEAD TO FEELINGS OF ISOLATION AND CONFUSION AND MAY HIDE ABUSIVE SITUATION.
WHAT MIGHT PREVENT SOMEONE FROM DISCLOSING?
FEAR OF NOT BEING BELIEVED, EMBARRASSMENT, OR FEELING ASHAMED MIGHT PREVENT SOMEONE FROM DISCLOSING.
DESCRIBE A SITUATION WHERE A.C.T. CAN BE APPLIED.
A SITUATION COULD BE WHEN A FRIEND CONFIDES IN YOU ABOUT FEELING UNCOMFORTABLE WITH SOMEONE AND YOU ENCOURAGE THEM TO A.C.T. TO SEEK HELP.
HOW CAN GROOMING LEAD TO ABUSE?
BY CREATING A FALSE SENSE OF SAFETY AND TRUST, MAKING IT EASIER TO EXPLOIT THE VICTIM.
DESCRIBE A SITUATION WHERE BOUNDARIES WERE TESTED.
A SITUATION MIGHT INVOLVE A FRIEND PRESSURING YOU TO KEEP A SECRET THAT MAKES YOU UNCOMFORTABLE TESTING YOUR BOUNDARIES ON TRUST AND SAFETY.
HOW CAN YOU MAKE SURE YOU'RE SAFE WHEN SHARING SECRETS?
TO ENSURE SAFETY WHEN SHARING SECRETS, TALK TO A TRUSTED ADULT OR FRIEND WHO CAN HELP YOU UNDERSTAND THE SITUATION BETTER.
HOW CAN YOU ENCOURAGE SOMEONE TO DISCLOSE?
YOU CAN ENCOURAGE SOMEONE TO DISCLOSE BY LISTENING TO THEM, VALIDATING THEIR FEELINGS, AND REASSURING THEM THAT IT'S SAFE TO TALK.
HOW CAN TELLING SOMEONE HELP STOP ABUSE?
TELLING SOMEONE CAN HELP STOP ABUSE BY BRINGING IT TO THE ATTENTION OF AUTHORITIES WHO CAN TAKE ACTION TO PROTECT THE VICTIM.