Anger Management
This is what leads to you being angry.
Event or situation
"Ah, the sun is blinding, I stayed up again.
Oh, I am finding that that's not the way I want my story to end...
Ah, the night is calling and it whispers to me softly to come and play
But I am falling and if I let myself go I'm the only one to blame."
Sober by P!nk
This is the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors connected to the loss of something important.
Grief
This famous singer & guitarist became addicted to heroin in the early 1970s, & later alcohol & cocaine. He has been sober since 1987, & in 1998 he built a treatment center in the Caribbean island of Antigua. Wonderful Tonight, Tears in Heaven, I Shot the Sheriff
Eric Clapton
What was the name of the man in the videos who talked about Steps 1 and 2?
Father Martin.
Name some events that make you angry.
Traffic, waiting (at the doctor or grocery store), a friend not paying you back, being lied to/on, inconsiderate neighbors, etc.
"Now look at me, a couple days sober - I'm fighting demons...
If I can be an example of getting sober, then I can be an example of starting over...
We fell so hard, now we gotta get back what we lost."
Starting Over by Macklemore
This refers specifically to the period of mourning after the death of a loved one.
Bereavement
Known for his role in the sitcom FRIENDS, this actor was once addicted to alcohol and prescription drugs after a watercraft accident.
Matthew Perry aka Chandler Bing in FRIENDS.
What is Step 1?
We admitted we were powerless over alcohol (drug) -- that our lives had become unmanageable.
What are the four cue categories of anger? (Signs that you are angry.)
Physical, behavioral, emotional, and cognitive (thoughts).
"Can I clear my conscience, if I'm different from the rest, do I have to run and hide?
I never said that I want this, this burden came to me,
and it's made it's home inside"
Monster by Imagine Dragons
Describe some symptoms of grief.
Feelings of shock or numbness, intense distress, sleep difficulties, loss of appetite, restlessness, guilt associated with the deceased, poor concentration, intense sadness, etc.
In the 1990s, this female pop singer was reportedly hitting the clubs every night and was addicted to ecstasy and crystal meth. Get the Party Started, Just Give Me A Reason, Family Portrait
P!nk
What is Step 2?
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Give examples of:
-Physical cues
-Behavioral cues
Physical: increased heart rate, tightness in chest, feeling hot or flushed, etc.
Behavioral: clench your fists, raise your voice, stare, etc.
"Johnnie called me late last night & I told Mr. Walker just go home. Why do the demons in my mind never wanna leave me alone. It's the pistol & the bottle, it's the drugs & it's the throttle that tell me they'll make me feel alive. But I know good & well that ain't gonna help. I'm just praying I make it through the night."
The Night by Morgan Wade
*Daily Double* - describe each stage.
Denial (questioning the loss), anger (casting blame or being angry with deceased), bargaining (bartering to avoid the cause of grief), depression (intense sadness), and acceptance (accepting the loss even though there is still pain).
This famous actress reported taking "every drug possible" as a teen & young adult, but being especially fond of LSD, heroin, & cocaine. Reports that the adoption of her first son helped her "escape her past." Wanted, Salt, Maleficent
Angelina Jolie
What are some non-addictive ways of managing pain?
OTC medication, topical medications, diet modifications, therapeutic massage, meditation, laughter, stretching, progressive muscle relaxation, exercise, etc.
Give examples of:
-Emotional cues
-Cognitive (thought) cues
-Emotional: fear, jealousy, hurt, disrespect, etc.
-Cognitive: thinking poorly of yourself, hostile thoughts towards others, etc.
"Lost again, broken and weary. Unable to find my way, tail in hand. Dizzy and clearly unable to just let this go.
I am surrendering to the gravity and the unknown. Catch me, heal me, lift me back up to the sun. I choose to live."
Gravity by A Perfect Circle
This is when the acute (initial) grief begins to heal & a person resumes normal activities as the pain slowly subsides. This does not mean that the pain fully disappears but instead, the loss is integrated into day to day life.
Integrated grief.
This famous singer & pianist has been sober for nearly 30 years but is the first to admit the battle is never really over for those in recovery. He always wears odd little sunglasses. Can You Feel The Love Tonight from the Lion King
Sir Elton John
Where can you find help with pain management ideas?
12 Step or mutual help meetings, sponsor, primary doctor, Ethan Health, friends, family, online, etc.
***Always consult your doctor before trying something new!